Why did he lie to me?

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Hi, I am 20 y/o and I have fallen for a man (Shan) who is 34 y/o. We have been hanging out for the past 7 months. I expressed my feelings to him once but never got an answer from him. Thus, I decided to keep our relationship purely as friends. (I cant deny I still like him). Though we are friends but the way we behave are more like a couple instead. All these actions have given me sort of wrong signals. Until yesterday night when I was real moody, I asked him to accompany me for a drink. He brought a gal friend (Meg) who is his age along (I hung out with her quite a few times).  From Meg, I discovered that they have been officically together for a year and she has been staying over at his place every weekend since then. I didnt know all these. I asked Shan before and he told me he has no faith in women anymore and he is still single. His and Meg's words are contradicting! Why did he lie to me? So that he can have the best of both worlds? I am real foolish. What a hard lesson learnt.

miranda · Accepted Answer

cute guys come and go but strong girls like you, me and all other girls of the world must know one thing...must go on...forget the cheaters...they were never meant to be...once cheater is always a cheater...never belive any man on this world until he is officially urs...remember...men are always men...shall it be 20 yrs of age, 30 or evn 34!

all the best

lotteda717 · Answer

You are to young to hanging with 30 yr.olds.He is almost old enough to be your dad,What can you have in common?OK he lied to you.Maybe he just didn't want you to know his business.Him bring Meg along for the drink,should tell you he is not interested in you as a mate.If you can keep this as a purely friendship thing. Then keep him as a friend,but know he doesn't want you beyond that.Why would you want this? move on.

lilpeaches0315 · Answer

Drop him. He's giving you and that girl, Meg, the run-around. He ain't worth it. 

Straight up, if he wanted to be with you, he would. And obviously he doesn't. He sounds like a jerk to me.

I would just keep him as a friend but go out and find you another good man. Plenty of them out there. You just happened to find a bad one.

Good luck. Hope this helps.

Anonymous · Answer

cause he's a liar.
stay away from these morons.
im a woman and i have met lots of guys that are actual gentlemen and dont lie.
let the liars go lie to someone else. u know better and u know there are guys that are better than him.

Moose · Answer

I'm sorry for that it must have hurt you...He lied to you because he wanted 2 girls around him to make him feel better about himself and he didn't care about your feelings or his girlfriends...All I can say is you have to shake it off, put your head up, and keep on moving...

I wish you the best of luck

-Moose

Ophelia · Answer

Sorry you got hurt. He's rotten from the inside out. You can find someone who won't drag your heart around.

rumblecookie · Answer

sounds like your last line answered it for you. You learned your lesson...now's the time to move on.

marya · Answer

maybe she was lying? But most likely he is..id just forget about him, once a cheater always a cheater.

Anonymous · Answer

well you said you guys were just friends so, i mean if you were dating that would be different but you guys were just friends, he dident betray you he just dident see the need to tell you, and besides just like i tell all my girls when they are all like " why dident you tell me?" i answer simply "honey you never asked"

elisayn · Answer

It is his perrogative if he does not want a commitment.  Maybe this girl is lying to you.  bettyk

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