Men! Please answer this question for me?

Babe - he's insecure about his own sexuality... it has NOTHING to do with you. Most men would sacrifice their left nut for a woman as willing to entertain as you seem after 5 years... Unfortunately, It's only a matter of time before he does cheat on you... either with you and your permission or without you.

His pornography is a poison that he will never be rid of, but if you are ok with it and he's not lying to you about it (or spend all your $$$ on it) - it's not the biggest problem.

The question you need to ask yourself is how do you feel about being in an open relationship, and are you/he ok with you having sex with other guys as well??? If the answer to either question is NO FREAKING WAY - you need to kill his aspirations of being with other women or cut bait now before you have any kids with him. A fantasy is only a fantasy until it becomes real - then most times they turn into a disappointment.

Most men will turn any argument into their favor. I know, I'm one of them. Thing is, nature dictates that men will have the subliminal urge to spread their genes as wide as possible. Society implimented all types of reasons and methods to keep men true to their partner, and in most cases health risks in ancient times even contributed to the way we currently behave. This is not an excuse, but an honest fact, and if you "get" it, you can use it to your benefit as well.

All men fantasize over other woman, and I think all men will try and push the boundaries. It doesn't always mean that they will do it.

You might want to read up a little on improving your sex life and relationship, and I guess variety in your approach to sex and intimacy might also have a positive effect.

I've been married for almost 5 years now, and my wife always allow me in this area. The last couple of weeks I've been thinking about this a lot, and I thought that she's to easy... She'll try and present herself daily, and it actually starts to irritate me. If she can make me interested without handing herself over even before I've hinted, it might bring back the natural hunting or challenge effect. Maybe by a little refusal, or being slightly less available, I dont know? Sometimes its more erotic to leave something to the imagination, rather than putting all you have to offer on display.

We all want what we can not have??? Its nature, so if we always get what we want, sooner or later its taken for granted, and we need something else or more or better or different.

In the end its a very personal thing, and it will require different approaches for different people. If you are very daring, you might ask him about his fantasies, or watch some of his "movies" with him and see if you can get him satisfied by doing some of the "styles" or "moves" in these.

Ultimately, if you have nothing else left to try, tell him that you will only grant him permission to have "relations" with other woman if you can have the same permission from him to see other men. This might cause a fight, but it will have him feel how you feel when he demands it. Most men won't take it very well though, so don't try this as your first weapon, or try and bring it across subtly.

Ps. I used to watch a little porn, and then my wife started watching a little, and now she watches more than I do. She says that certain types works her up and then she's really hot for me. I'm not complaining.

Pss; my wifes going to read this too, so maybe you will not be the only one getting some answers.

Have you been having sex for 5 years? You're out of the honeymoon phase by now.

Sorry to say, our minds and bodies are purpose built by eons of evolution to crave variety. By now your relationship has matured and you are truely in love. But lust and the "new" give our brains a chemical rush better than cocaine.

I easily admit to my own wife that it took years to really love her. Maintaining lust however is a daily struggle.

1. your man has a problem.

2. your man is a man

3. haven't you heard the whole "committment theory?" the reason guys are afraid of committment is b/c they 'think' they are missing out on orgys their friends are having and think that everything...no matter how they good got it, he always imangine his peers with bikini models in a jacuzzi. Just a nature telling the man to plant his seed wide and far.

4. and far as your last sentences goes...if you ponder a such question, i'm sure there are decent assumption that would prove to be true. So....i mean i ain't married so ...just follow ....older ppl advice...or something... good luck !

He is a slave to his porn addiction. If you want to win him back. the PORN has got to GO!

He needs to focus on you and you alone for his sake and yours. Porn and other sins have great power of a man's psyche...if you want to have victory in this..he has got to stop watch porn and get his head straight.

You might try praying to Jesus..He can hellp.

Give him a choice , you, the other women or the porn. Hopefully he will wake up and smell the coffee.

OK, first of all this guy is full of sh@#$t. you didn't know he was like this before u married him. he sounds like a big looser to me. and he sooooo cheating on you. he wouldn't ask you that if he wasn't cheating on you. if you don't want to leave him, which you should but if u don't want to leave, ask him to have a threesome then?

gross... You think I'm stupid???