I badly needed some opinion and advice on this one pls....?

He wanted you to help pack so he could say good bye.

You have to realise that your relationship definitions can't be the most vital thing in his life every second. If he has a legitimate problem to work on then for goodness sake - don't add more pressure!! A speaking ultimatum was a bad idea - it's pressure from someone that should be there for him! On the other hand, it was great that you went the next day to help him without bringing up more uncomfortable stuff. He doesn't KNOW what is going to happen, so please don't pressure him to reassure you right now. This is a fine time for you to be a woman and stand on your own and be there for him if he needs you, rather than a girl who's needy for reassurance even when he can't give it! Back off with the relationship issues for a while. It's a good sign that he called you even after your ultimatum pushed him away. He obviously does want you to be there for him, and when it's time for relationships to take main stage again, he'll remember how you treated him.

First of all he told you he has problems and he does not want you to be in the middle of this! Why is he in a motel? And where did he go when you helped him pack? This is my thoughts! He needs to know with no strings attached he can call you when he needs you! You need to tell him that! I have a special friend and he did this same thing to me so i gave him the space cause i thought like you it is over. I moved on and remarried and then he called me out of the blue one day and said i will regret the choice i made the rest of my life. He told me that he loved me and told me why he did what he did and it was to protect me from all of his stuff. He was the man for me but i made another choice and now i had to stick to the choice i made. You can either give him time to do this (and make sure you ask him if you wait will he come back) or you can move on!

Nobody can answer that but him. It sounds like he is going through a lot right now and just needs some time to deal with everything.

Give him his space. If he comes back around, so be it....if he doesn't, so be it. You worrying about it is not going to change the outcome.

From what you have posted here, it doesn't even sound like he knows what he wants to do at this point.. whatever his problems are it may take him awhile to work them out. I would say to give him a week or two to mull things over before you attempt to contact him again,so he can try to work out his pain.. when you do contact him again, be there for him and be supportive of him. I hope things work out for the both of you and i wish you well in the future !!

When he told you that he has problems, he was telling you "no". When he said yes, he was going into pressure. His asking you to help him pack was his way of trying. It's sometimes easier to have contact when you're busy doing something else.

He realized he had not been very nice over the phone so he called you back and asked for the favor. That way he got to say good bye on a good note.....don't wait for him, he will not be thinking of you.

it's one thing to be a friend, but don't be naive. he has issues to deal with. so let him deal with them. he needed helping packing, why? he was in a hotel, so how much could he have? after packing, did u take him somewhere? did he need a ride? i advise u to seperate urself from him for a while.

It's hard to say, but I would think if he didn't want to see you again, he wouldn't have ask you to help pack. You know that saying, If you love someone, let them go, if they return to you.........

ya he needs time to sort out

can't say he loves you or not but ya he feels you to be someone his own may be just a friend but atleast someone close to his heart