After 13 years of marriage, 3 kids under 12, a dream home and a good job?

You're better off without her, harsh but true.

And she had the affair, so kick her out the house.

You are quite something...she has an affair, tosses you out of your own home that you have worked hard to get, she refuses to even try again with you...and you forgive her. There is the problem....you are far too decent and nice. I actually don't think you can go back to the way things were as they obviously weren't right or she wouldn't have played away. It must be so sad for you right now but its not the end of the world, you are just entering a new phase...and you willl be happy again, just in a different way. Oh, and if you really must try and get her back, then play the 'other woman card' - make sure your estranged wife gets to hear about it and let her worry a bit. Perhaps it will shock her into thinking she has made a mistake. On the other hand she might not give a hoot and you will have to accept it is over then. I wish you luck. Do keep us all posted on your progress.

I am so sorry to hear your marriage is in trouble. Firstly is the house jointly owned, if so she cannot throw you out, you have as much right to be there, especially for your children you both share. If you cannot live together at the moment try and make a deal, you Will give her 3 months space to see what she wants and what she is missing.... the grass is not always greener on the other side, she might find that out if you give her time. Make sure that you look after yourself for the children's sake and your own too.

Do not give her all her own way just because you love her or she will walk all over you. Try to talk or right her letter if that is easier.

hope this helps, good luck

Generally a woman only has an affair if she is not being emotionally fulfilled at home. For men it's more physical - a woman needs emotional support and be made to feel gorgeous and sexy. Have you fallen short here at all? 3 kids under 12! That's a lot of work in itself. She needs to feel special, loved and wanted for herself - not just the mother of your children.

Try to get her to come out for dinner, and tell her how you feel. Tell her how gorgeous she is and how much you want to be with her... Are you getting my drift?... Do you think the guy she had the affair with told her she was an ugly old bat? I don't think so. She was made to feel special again, sexy, loved even. That's what you have to give her.

Good Luck, Sweetie..

My heart goes out to you but considering what you said I don't think she wants to be with you anymore.And if for some reason she does let you back in the house who says things will be back to normal and how do you know she will not cheat on you again? Right now you are hurt-after everything that was accomplished in your marriage she is so willing to throw you out of the house and away from the children,you are in denial-you think that if you can get her to love you again things will be back to normal because you can't stand the thought of losing your family. Since she does not want to work on the marriage then it is time for you to get a lawyer.Divorce is no easy task and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy but you are going to have to get on with your life without your wife but hopefully you will be able to spend time with the kids and also you might need to try a little therapy for yourself. Goodluck

Take control of the situation you can't make someone love but you can start to get your life back. First she is the one who cheated so go back home and tell her to pack her bags and get out then file for divorce on the grounds of adultry. There will be a good chance you will get the children and she will have to pay child support. Don't roll over and play dead you did nothing wrong and now it's time to show her what happens when you cheat

I feel for you. If she doesnt want to talk to you and has refused marriage counselling, then i dont really know what else you can do. Maybe you need to let things die down a bit, and then approach her again. Try and get somebody to talk to her on your behalf, perhaps a friend or relative. She might realise that your marriage is too precious to throw away.

It might also be good to seperate for while, to allow breathing space for both of you where you can reflect and think about what you want.

YOU DEFINITELY HAVE A HEART WRENCHING, DIFFICULT SITUATION ON YOUR HANDS. THE ONLY THING I CAN TELL YOU IS, THE MORE YOU HOUND HER, AND KEEP BEGGING HER, THE FURTHER YOU PUSH HER AWAY. ALTHOUGH IT'S GOING TO BE HARD, JUST BE COOL FOR A WHILE. DON'T ASK HER ANYMORE ABOUT RECONCILING. MAYBE SHE JUST NEEDS SOME TIME TO REALIZE WHAT SHE HAS, AND WHAT SHE WILL REALLY BE MISSING OUT ON IF YOU TWO DECIDE ON A DIVORCE. IN THE MEANTIME ALL YOU CAN DO IS PRAY, AND HOPE FOR THE BEST. REMEMBER, THINGS ALWAYS HAPPEN FOR A REASON. COULD BE SOMEONE WAITING FOR YOU WHO WILL APPRECIATE YOUR LOVE AND COMPASSION INSTEAD OF WALKING ALL OVER IT. HOWEVER, DO CONTINUE TO TALK TO YOUR KIDS, AND LET THEM KNOW YOU LOVE THEM DESPITE ALL THAT HAS TAKEN PLACE. I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU..... GOOD LUCK

well bob it sounds to me this woman mat have been unhappy for some time, she went with other men and then still you was ask to leave.

it does not mean it is your fault, just as we grow older we grow apart.

i would do my best to be friends because of the kids you share together.

but try and understand it is over, i'm sorry if my words hurt i just say it how it is.

none of us are getting any younger so time to move on.

easy for me to say you will be thinking bob,

but if she as done this to you now, would you really want to go back and live in fear of it happening again.

i know you have forgiven her.

but our minds can be our own worse enemy at times.

you would entertain thoughts of your wife going with other man again these thoughts will just pop in thier.

that is no way to live and will make you unhappy.

i wish you luck in the furture

kindest regards

x kitti x

yea she sounds like she is cheating or something. And then give it 6 months and she will be back thats most likely whats goin to happen. At that point i wouldnt take her back. Is that both of your houses? Who paid for it. She cant kick u out legally that i know of. But yea just hang in there. And there are some nasty girls out there just not all men are pigs woman can be to

Try looking at the link below. It's a marriage counseling program (very good), but there is a section called the "lone ranger track" for people in your exact situation that are trying to get their spouse back.

Hope this helps,

Good Luck

http://www.marriagemax.com/