How does mother or mother-in-law help out after pregnant?

LOL@ mother -in- law, if your not from India then i guess you don`t realize that its a culture thing!! people from India tend to have tight knit families(meaning very close in relationship to each other) since this is her grandchild she wants to be apart of the experiences, So let her come or you will look like the evil daughter-in-law, and you don`t want that!! my husband is from India and his parents are planning on coming in September or October, after the birth of their 3rd grandchild, I have never met them before and I never told them or deny them from coming to see their grandchildren, but I also feel the same way you feel, I really don`t want someone coming here after the birth of my daughter so soon!, but their is nothing i could do or say if they did come because its their grandchild and they have a different culture then I do.So do what i do just pray they don`t come so soon, LOL

mother of 3 and 36 weeks pregnant

My mother in law cooked for me when I was pregnant, and helped me set everything up in the nursery. When I was in the hospital she cleaned my entire house top to bottom so that I could come home to a clean, organized house. She took the baby so I could nap, and helps answer any questions that I have. He's almost 2 now, and she still helps out all the time. She's helping me potty train right now! You will want her to do all that for you because you will be exhausted! My hubby took 2 weeks off, and I was still exhausted with him helping! The twisted part of it is, my mom lives in the same town that we do. My mom would come over to hold the baby and gush all over him, but she would never think to help out in any way. Being close to your mother in law is the best thing that you can do. I understand how important it is now because I have a son! Just letting her feel like she's helping will make her happy.

She wants to come and help you out because thats what grandmothers do!! They come they clean, they cook, they help you with baby when you are frustrated or dont know what to do-your MIL has a lot to offer you. And you never know - living so far away how often will she see the baby.

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take all the help you can get. Even if it just doing the dishes and dinner. I didn't want mine and it did help out and suprisingly they get less on your nerves because you are too tired :)

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