Friends for 20 years. After 3years Together While Snuggling/Asleep He Said "mmm,oooh,(someone else's name)"

he did what???!!! hahah well...maybe it's just a crush...you know guys...i mean it's normal for actualy men and women to be attracted and have crushes on people outside of the relationship...and if she's 20 yrs younger...then of course it's probably an infatuation thing...he's not cheating...he's just beinng human...it's like if you dreamt about george clooney or someone hot :)

Men think about sex 5 times a day (minimum). They just do, they can't help it. And they are constantly fantasizing about all kinds of sex with women they meet or see. It doesn't mean they don't love you, it's just how their mind works.

The distinction is whether they ACT on those thoughts or just understand them as fantasy and that's all it is. Most men are smart enough to know fantasy from reality, and while they will indulge their fantasies with daydreams or even the private "M" act, they still always return to their true REAL love for intimacy and friendship. Don't be intimidated or upset.

The less intelligent man will be confused by his own fantasies and want to pursue them as reality. That's when you have trouble (and it's self-destructive for him too). Those men can't separate reality from fantasy, and they are on a path to misery and loneliness.

It sounds like your man is the former. Friends for 20 years, then intimate for 3, and he's snuggling and sleeping with you. He clearly loves you.

He had a fantasy about the younger girl. It might be one that he indulges from time to time or it just came out of nowhere, and he doesn't even know where it came from.

My husband told me just the other night he had an intense dream about Christina Appelgate as his wife, doting on him and madly in love with him, and throughout it he kept thinking she MUST be cheating on him because it was too good to be true. He thought it was weird because he hasn't thought about her for over 10 years. Did I panic? No, of course not! He probably used to fantasize about her 10+ years ago, and something in his day just triggered the fantasy in his dreams.

I've had similarly weird dreams about hot celebrity men too. It means nothing. It's just your brain having a little fun.

After 20 years of friendship, I think you have to give him a little trust on this one. He's clearly committed to you and you alone.

I was once dating a girl for about 5 months and it happened to me. I remember saying it, I just don't know where it came from. I was half asleep and said, "I can see you in my boat Kim". I don't have a boat, I didn't date any girl named Kim. It just came out as I was going to sleep. Yet she thought I was cheating...Not the case but I couldn't convice her.

However he may harbor some feelings for an ex. That don't mean you are not his future. Just keep your eyes open and do what you girls do so well- pay attention.

Where the mind goes, the man follows. Of course he says he's in no way interested in her. He doesn't want to risk losing his sure thing for a potential good thing. He's human. Ultimately, it's what you can live with that counts.

It's not whether a person has inappropriate thoughts that matters. It's whether the person acts upon those inappropriate thoughts. Leaving things be is a good option to consider at this point.

I hate to say it but he might be fantasizing about her or dreaming about her. It's just natural. As long as you can accept that and the two of you can be together.

It's normal and healthy to fantasize about others. What's important is you two set up some ground rules. As long as you are together and you are free to fantasize, but not do anything about it, you guys will be fine.

It's a dream. He was unconscious. Who gets to control their dreams? Don't give it another thought.

If he's cheating, you'll know it, and it won't be because of some silly dream.

Why don't you give him a real good time in the old sackeroo and maybe he'll dream of you next time...

You can't hold him liable for his dreams.

We are not in control of our dreams.

I dream of people from my past, and I would never want to be with them.

I'm very happy in my marriage.

But it still happens to me

You said it yourself you are ONLY friends. Frienship is NOT a romantic relationship. So he said someone else's name. BFD.