my BF and are having huge problems. Help!!! I don't know how we got this far?

Wow you are worried about him being sick of you when he is throwing you around? Have you got such little self esteem to see all that you are worth?

I would suggest counseling sessions, not just for him but you as well. Even if you get out of the relationship. Did this happen before? Was he drinking? If it has happened before then I would not stay. I would leave. If your mom was in an abusive relationship a lot of times a child will follow their parents lead, naturally.

I would either come to an agreement that he won't ever do that to you again, or get out. If he doesn't go to counseling though I would get out anyways. That shows his indesire to change.

Sometimes women stay in it for the time we have spent in the relationship, but in reality that isn't a good reason. Make sure he can make you happy, you only have one life to live.

Honey yes he is sick of you and if you don't get out now ( lease is just an excuse ) then you are just repeating the pattern of what your mom went through. You can't possibly love a man who is pushing you against a wall and who is physically hurting you, that is not love believe me.

It's time for you to pick up your self esteem form the floor and walk out the door with your head up high. Go see your landlord talk to him about the situation and ask him if there's a way that you can leave.

NO more excuses before you end up in one of those wooden boxes.

Good luck

You just answered your own question. You said you grew up in an abusive family. Do you want to live like your mom did? Probably not. I'm sure it is hard but you have to look at the pros and cons of the situation. Pros, you love him, you have been together for 5 years, etc. Cons, he hurts you, yells at you, has already given you bruises, etc. Just sit down and write everything out, and truthfully! That way you SEE what you need to do. And the lease thing? I'm sure if you two decided to break it off then you could talk to your landlord and explain the situation. (And you let the landlord know why you want out! But not in front of yourboyfriend.)

If the relationship is becoming physically abusive, you need to get out. Once someone starts down that road, it can only get worse. Talk to your landlord about getting off the lease. Stay with family or friends until you can get on your feet. And, definately get some help for this. It is never ok for someone to do that to another person in the relationship.

do you remember what your mother went through?? When a relationship gets to the pushing and shoving sooner or latter it will be beating a hurting until you end up dead somewhere!! There is so much that people can say to you but in the long run it's you who has to put your feet on the ground and say it's enough i have to go!!!!

There are so many men who would love to treat you the way you deserve!!! but if you choose to be in an abusive relationship there is not much people on here can do for you!!!

I think that you should leave while you still can !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and fast!!!!!

Who cares if he is sick of you? The real question is how far are you willing to let him go with the physical abuse? There is NEVEr a good enough reason to lay your hands on someone like that. Lease or no lease get out of this relationship.

It's best you leave. There's always loop holes in the law. Find out a way you can get out of lease. It will be worse next time.

Get out for crying out loud!

You are gonna go further, don't worry...

..all the way to the emergency room.

I am sure keeping up that lease would have been worth it.

ANY HITTING -IS TO MUCH HITTING

Get out while you still can

I think it's time to break it off.

Doesn't sound like either of you are happy.

Maybe he's trying to tell you he's done, and you just don't get it--get away from him ASAP. If he says he's sorry, tell him to go get help and prove to you he's changed.

Break it off, go out with your friends and be happy.

Get out run dont stop dont worry about the lease it is only money this is you LIFE here.