What to do? Sister in law trying to ruin me. Very long story but stay with it...?

Stop letting your MIL take your son for the day and let everyone know they need to grow the hell up and you have better things to do than deal with all their bullshit drama and you will not allow your son to be around it.

You're right - there is no changing you mother-in-law. So what you have to change is yourself. What you and your wife have to do is become independent. I know that's hard (I've been there myself), but you are both adults and now you're parents. Get a job. Any job. Flip burgers at McDonald's, run a cash register at the local 7-11, etc. You both have to be willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to provide your son a safe and healthy living environment, and living with your mother-in-law will never be it! It's not easy, and it may mean working two or three jobs at a time. But it won't be forever, and the rewards of having a peaceful home to go to at the end of your day will make it all worth it.

It's interesting that before you met her, you made a judgement about her: "She sat & smiled but i just knew she'd try & split us up."

Why did you think that?

How did you know?

You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself and how you relate to others and reality. It sounds like you already had some issues around being accepted by others BEFORE any problems with your sister-in-law developed. Your sister-in-law is only reflecting what you feel inside. As long as you don't feel accepted - for whatever reason - there will always be someone in your life who reflects this. Think about it. It is those issues that you must address then this "problem" will go away.

hunni thats terrible, first you probably have to find the root of her very obvious problem with you. Was she close to your husband becos if she was then mayb she couldn't bear to see him happy with anyone but her, i know it sounds wierd but it does happen, it also sounds as though she has turned her parents against you on purpose this is not on. Your son is yours if she wants to see your son then you should have some say, this isn't right and i wish i could offer u advice but i dont really know what else i could do

i am really sorry

hope everything works out well

bryonyxx

Very hard position you are in. I would stay neutral if I was you. Dont moan about her to your partner and just get on with your life as best you can. In the long run he is with you and if his family dont care for you then what can you do. Your with him and he wants to be with you. Forget them.

have a good talk to your mother in law explain things and if they dont change then start ignoring her and leaving her out your and your sons plans till she realises how shes being!

find another place far away from her.... eliminate everything that's connected to her.. that's what i did..and now, i live in peace and happiness with only my husband and kids..

just pray to God and be petient ND EVRYTHING WILL BE CALME

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