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Which guy should I choose?
I'm turning 23 on Thursday. Work, have no kids, very religious and I'm at University.
Guy # 1. turned 19 already. He doesn't have a steady job. He's a foreigner but has been in my country for over 15 years, he's at university. No kids, very religious. Sensitive, thoughtful, mature and most of all considerate. Him being a foreigner it doesn't bother me because I was born in Angola and I am an Angolan but because of the war my family died and then got adopted, now live in this country.
Guy #2. He's turning 28. steady job. has no kids, not that religious. I'm currently dating him but not over the moon happy. Has never bought me anything not even chocolate. I am in the city and he is in a small town but when he comes to the city e.g the last time he used my roll-on, my body lotion, never spoiled me. He's always telling he's broke and so he cannot spoi I know it sounds like he's using me but....
Should I leave him and go with guy 2 to be with guy 1 or should I give guy 2 a more chance?
9 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It seems to me that the way you worded each guys description you have already made your choice, you said both positives and negatives about each guy, but most of the negs went to guy two, and obviously if you are doubting your relationship with guy 2 then you arent happy and it will not work out, i mean sure he can get more financially well off, he can become more religious if he wants to, i guess it depends on if you want to wait for this guy to come around, you can't make people change, so if you like him enough to wait for him then do so, but it sounds to me like you have made your decision about guy 2 already.... guy 1 may be young but it seems to me that his life maturity level at what he is accomplishing is better off than guy 2, and it seems to be more your type... i think honestly you want to be with guy 1, but you are feeling guilty about leaving guy 2... and remember age is just a number as long as it is legal, but you are young, you live and you learn right?? take the chance why you are young and have the time and the stability to do so.
- 1 decade ago
How close is guy number 1 to you?
Guy #2 seems to have intentions, but maybe he just cant afford it at the moment. Which is ok. As long as you are happy about it, which I am guessing you are not. You sound like a girl who knows how to handle money and need that security in your life. Maybe you should try talking to guy #2 and voicing your concerns. IF he really isn't making you happy and you are longing for the other guy then by all means don't kid yourself. Go for the other guy. Your still young.
- CEYISHA SLv 41 decade ago
EVEN THOUGH THE 19 YEAR OLD:HE IS NOT WORKING HE COULD FIND A JOB.
23 YEAR OLD: YOU STOP PLAYING GAMES HERE, HE IS USING YOU PERIOD. HE DOESNT HAVE MONEY FOR YOU.
YOU CAN DO BETTER THEN THIS CANT YOU?YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO THRIVE AND SURVIVE WITHOUT FAMILY IN A COLD WORLD. THEN I KNOW YOU CAN DAMN SURE DO BETTER THAN THEM BOTH. YUK, DO NOT SETTLE FOR THEM: HE IS OUT THERE SO MAKE YOURSELF SMARTER AND WORK HARDER AND SAVE YOUR MONEY. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. YOU ARE THE MAN YOU NEED AND HAVE RIGHT NOW UNTIL YOU FIND A GUY ON THE SAME PAGE AS YOU ARE. GOOD LUCK
- 1 decade ago
I think you should be with the one you are ATTRACTED to..Guy 1 sounds more of your types from your description...and you already said ur not happy with the 2 one...Good Luck!
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- 1 decade ago
thats kiinda tough because i dont really like either. but i think i would go with #1. he may not have a steady job and he may be young, but he's going to school and thats imortant. he is also religious and that is important also. its a tough one, i can see why you ask for help.
- woodchipper890Lv 41 decade ago
I think you should get rid of them both and find someone that will make you happy instead of trying to compromise with a different guy to fill each one of your needs.
- 1 decade ago
the age is not a problem, if the n1 treats u better, i mean u can have all ur needs from him then do it..my oppinion is that the n2 is using u.i would choose n1it seems like u have the same character
- 1 decade ago
leave guy 2 and go with guy one because you are obviously not happy with your current situation so try someone new out
- Anonymous1 decade ago
guy#1
