can you help me ...i dont want an abortion hubby does?

Why is it so wrong?

Go on a few really rough, bumpy, twisty rides at an amusement park-maybe you'll miscarry-then everyone will be happy.

It is YOUR choice, not your husbands. You need to be able to live with your choice, too. Is it in the best interest of your other children to choose not to bring another baby into the family? Will it kill you inside to abort? If I were in your situation, I would either abort or give the baby up for adoption. I am against abortion for myself, but I also believe that everyone should have a choice and not be condemned for that choice.

It is something that you should not consider lightly. Look. Here's some things to think about. You've got two kids, one of whom is still an infant. What is your money situation like? Can you afford another child? Perhaps you might want to consider an abortion. Then immediatly get on birth control or use condoms.

Tell your husband that he's a prick. HE'S the one who didn't use a condom. What the heck has HE done to prevent pregnancy? Nothing. So, you don't listen to a DANG word he has to say. Not one word. YOU make this choice. You are the one who has to be able to live with it. It is not murder. It is a choice. If you make the choice to abort, let it be a lesson to be more careful in the future and prevent another roller coaster like this one.

Good luck. Listen to your heart. Consider the wellfare of your other 2 kids.

The facts are, you have a human life growing inside of you. It has its own unique DNA - it is *not* just part of your body. Its heart will be beating by 5 weeks (probably not too long from now, if you haven't made it there yet). Your child deserves a chance at life. Your youngest will be over a year by the time this one is born - it won't be as bad as it seems now. Since you already know what it's like to go through pregnancy and birth, an abortion is likely to be very very difficult for you, and you may regret it for the rest of your life. Your husband will not have to suffer in the same way that you will, so his opinion should not count for much here. You are the one who has to walk in there knowing there is a life inside you, lay down on the table, and walk out with an empty womb - not him. And since he can't force you into it, I would give him all the arguments you have, and then tell him "too bad, I'm keeping the baby." If he loves you, he will accept your decision eventually.

If you don't want one, don't have one. It comes down to the fact that it is YOUR body. No it's not the ideal situation, but that doesn't mean it wont work out. Many women have children that close together. He is probably more worried about the financial situation. 3 kids are expensive. But you will get through it. When he meets the child he will fall in love with him/her, and never regret having them. There is no real argument except that it would cause you great personal pain to have the abortion, and you would resent your husband for making you do it. You would forever think "what if". That could ruin your marriage.

Since you have mostly female opinions... First I'm not going to tell you its wrong because although i wouldn't do it, its your damn body. Second if i were you i would explain to him why you want to have it in a comfortable setting, but both agree that if an argument starts you will stop the conversation, because especially with things like this it can pretty quickly become about the Principal rather then the actual circumstances. furthermore drive home the emotional aspect of the conversation, because more likely then not he is thinking with his wallet or his head and ignoring the heart. hes thinking about all the head aches of having 2 kids so close in age, and not about the son/daughter aspect of it.

hope a different perspective helps a bit

good luck

P.S. like i said it is your body and after you talk if your still aposed to it, then don't do it

Dear Mother:i know that it's not easy and considering that your second child is still very young, but still to abort just for not wanting the third is stupid.Just remember if your boy-friend's mother did the same probably to day he's not around fathering his two other kids. Besides your third child is helpless in this world and only his parents can give him the protection he or she needs.Keep in mind that as soon as this one is born go on the pill. Good luck to both of you.

WOW...that's not good at all!!!

If you really want this baby you need to explain to the father of your other children that although this was not planned it is something that you would like to move forward with. Ask him what he would do without the wonderful children he has now? This baby didn't choose when to come......you and your husband made the baby. I can understand the stress of having 3 children and 2 so close in age but there are people in this world who will never be able to even have one.

Wow. i became in this occasion approximately 5 mths in the past he reported " the toddler or me." already having 2 youngsters and no occupation and merely him and the babies i desperate to abort. I cryied alot and had to be drugged much greater for the duration of reason i became so dissatisfied and disturbing. a million min i became nonetheless uncertain and the subsequent each and every thing became flying and that i slured my words and don't submit to in recommendations something. i might say in case you do want this newborn then say no to abortion. accountable thoughts are terrible. he will come around or go yet are you able to stay with this? I did and that i've got been given over it yet I did and do say to him " i will have yet another newborn whethere it extremely is with him or not." if fifty one% of you says save it then accomplish that! Helenes ideal and that i've got reported that to my hubby. He merely laughed. go with your gut. do not pay attention to us.

I agree with Sarah! She is completely right! There is no other argument other than the fact it's murdering your own child.

I would also tell him that he would be missing out on raising another little miracle, but he seems as if he has had all of the joy he possibly needs with children.

Stand firm and do what you feel is right!

I just read some of your blog on my space and it made me feel like a jerk for getting bogged down in my own problems, lately. God bless you and your little girls. You sound like an awesome mom.

I think you would really regret having an abortion and may start resenting your husband if he insists upon it. Maybe some free counseling will help-do not make a move wihtout going to a third party-your marriage depends on it.

Best-

Maggie

first of all i dont know why you are married to this guy if he thinks you should abort yalls child that is WRONG!!! it sounds like you dont want to so thats argument enough. plus emotional problems afterwards and the fact that you may never be able to have another baby. GOOD LUCK