am I gay or not? (I wanted to love my girlfriend, do you think I will have a chance at a normal relationship?

Well when I was 5, my 16 year old cousin convinced me and my friend that sex was a game (we was same gendered me and my friend) so me and my friend has sex. Now I can't get it out my head and I am now 14. So it happens. But..

Love is odd. Love is something that comes from nowhere and causes a spark between two people (Same gendered or not), weather your gay or straight (even gay men can fall in love with women if that spark occurs).

Love is when your body and mind obssesses about one person, so much that you think about them and might even dream about them *BUT IT ALSO HAS A DARK SIDE*,

Not saying how you feel can tare you apart. Its like you being inside a glass bottle, soon the air in the bottle will fade and you will be torn *but you have to take off the lid* and breathe that air (in other words if you love someone in the way that I am said, then tell them!)

Also feeling weak around males because of what your step brother did is despicable, it means your terrified, it means your not loose, it means your step brother stood on your face and did not remove his foot *what to do?* take off his foot! Breath the air and relax, find someone to talk to, even childline over the phone where u can be kept confidential and the person wont even have to see you.

Just relax, and breathe the air.

Hope this helps you

Dan

What you should really be worrying about is whether he is happy or not, rather than snooping into his sexuality, that is for him to discover, figure out, not you; you cannot do that for him, can you? So relax, and allow him to grow up into a happy young man, gay or straight is actually immaterial in the long run, to him, and to you I am sure! Parental disapproval is the very reason so many gay teens snap, and go to extreme behaviours, like drugs and alcohol etc. If he is gay by chance, then he would having a tough time, by itself, so your support, unconditional at that, would be a blessing not only for him, but also for you as well, as in his well being ultimately lies yours! Only thing I would suggest is to come closer to him, by a being non-judgemental presence in his life, and not burdening him with your dreams for him. So that if and when he needs you, you are accessible, and channel of communication are open, and that is best thing parents can do and ask for, from a child this age. The more you try to hold on to them the further you will push them away! So relax give him space, and love you can, without holding on so tight!

It sounds like you had consensual sex with your step-brother; whether he talked you into it or not, it was your decision, and you're going to have issues until you accept that you were a willing participant. You had to know there was something wrong with having sex with a sibling at the age of 12, yet the only thing you seem to feel guilty about is his gender- and only because someone later told you it's wrong to have sex with another guy. It is possible that you may be gay, since having a girlfriend at 12 doesn't necessarily mean anything, though neither does fooling around with another guy at that age. But you'll continue to be confused until you stop blaming yourself for what happened, accept that it was an error in judgement, follow your heart, and accept yourself for who you are- even if that means a "normal" relationship will be one with another guy.

Being gay is not anyone's choice but your's. Its possibly you're bi-curious, or bisexual but why have any label at this point anyway.

A good example is consider a good-looking couple walking down the street. Now; which one do you want to BE and which one do you want to have sex with? Your answer will give a strong indication where your intentions are.

You don't have to act on something you're not comfortable with either.

Your step brother claims he's straight? But coerced you for sex? I'd say he's not straight at all. And if he suggest you are otherwise, then he needs his head examined.

I think you should talk to a shrink. There is so much more that is missing here. These issues (especially of rape) need to be dealt with by a professional. It could be that maybe you just don't trust guys around you any more because of what you brother did. But I would go to a shrink as fast as I can. Wish you the best dude.

you just need to wait and see what develops, there is no clear answer. I lost my virginity to a girl, and ended up gay. well I knew I was gay but tried to ignore it, I was also molested at age 5 by a neightbor guy. so I dont know if that means anything.

Im confused as well. do you mean you now have fallen in love with your straight step-brother who raped you when you were little? if so, you are gay, and psychologically warped. go and seek help

Please seek the help of a professional counselor to assist you in sorting yourself. You can lead a happy life, but it's going to take a lot of work.

I'm sorry but I really don't understand...Do you like men now or no? You left that part out...That will determine if you are gay or not...

Absolutely seek professional help, Insurances cover these issues & the only way yol'll get any peace is if you realize that none of it was your fault!!!!!!! I know. Please believe me.