Marriage proposal or no marriage proposal?

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My ex girlfriend and I have been separated for about 4 months after we were together for three years. She's been seeing someone else for about the same amount of time. We had space, but then I realized my love for her was deeper than I thought and decided to try and get her back. I've dropped her a line here and there, and she's returned my calls. I actually just recently spent a weekend with her (behind her current squeeze's back). The magic and chemistry is still there and it all reminded us of the good times. But now, she's too involved with this new guy and is scared she'll have ruined something new with him if we revert back to our bad ways. I've tried to assure her that that won't happen and that we're both smarter after all of this. I know she still loves me, but I can see the nervousness and apprehension. To cut through the crap, I want to prove to her that I'm ready to settle down with a marriage proposal in the very same classroom we first met at university. Should I do this?

Matthew Stewart · Accepted Answer

Bad idea. You will scare her off, possibly even for good.

Yes, tell her how you feel. Lay it all on the line. By all means be romantic. Even go so far as to let her know that you are interested in marriage, if she is ready and willing to take that step.

Then leave the ball in her court.

From the sound of things, if you push too hard, you will scare her, and possibly drive her deeper into the other guys arms.

Anonymous · Answer

Who is she fooling.
She's already "ruined" the relationship she has with HIM by sleeping with you.
She's definately one that you'll have a hard time trusting, should a marriage happen between the two of you.  Is it fair to that other guy that you are both seeing eachother behind his back.  HE had nothing to do with what the two of you had and nothing to do with the reasons you both parted ways.
Tell her to give the guy a break and be honest with him.  She isn't a committed person in any respect and it's funny that the two of YOU will most likely end up together.
Have you seriously thought long and hard about what marriage will be like with someone who might sneak around behind YOUR back and then tell her lover that she can't leave you?
She sounds like a real prize!!

Lindy · Answer

I'd think long and hard about this if I were you.  She didnt waste much time getting a new "friend" and she hasnt wasted much time cheating on him.

If I were you I would ask her if she wants to pursue the relationship with you or not.  If she does tell her she has to drop this new fella and you will start anew.

Dont propose yet, make a fresh start, see how it goes, I think we always want what we cant have, that has added spice to your relationship.  Take the other fella out of the equation and you are back to square one.

Whatever happens good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

awww... what the heck.. go for it.  The worse thing that can happen is that she says no... then you'll know how serious SHE is about the two of you...

But consider this.  She CHEATED with her current squeeze with YOU.  Do you really want someone who doesn't take committment seriously???  She is "involved" with this guy but thought it was okay to fool around with you??  Hmmm... kinda makes you wonder if she was involved with you if she would cheat with him......

Yeah... stuff to think about.

smartchica · Answer

I say go for it! If you don't, and she gets more serious with this other guy, you may be asking in the future, "but what if I had asked her?"...

Anonymous · Answer

The second one

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