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SafetyDancer asked in HealthWomen's Health · 1 decade ago

Can you help me out with this?

My wife has a chronic illness (Secondary Addison's Disease) and must take 12 - 15 medications per day. Essentially, her endocrine system is not functioning and she has to replace virtually everything the endocrine system would otherwise provide to her body. A couple of those medications have caused her to gain about 40 extra pounds...and the doctors say that she's probably going to keep gaining. She is very depressed about that (she takes medication for depression, too. It's helping.) She keeps running herself into the ground saying, "I'm a big fat pig!"

I feel completely useless in that I can't say or do anything to make her feel better about herself. She has always had a great body and never had to worry about her weight. Now, she has no control over it whatsoever. She just keeps gaining. I tell her that I love her, I help around the house as much as I can, tell her she's still beautiful, etc., but nothing seems to help. What can I do or say to boost her morale?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Tell her that it really hurts you when she says such mean things about herself because you love her unconditionally. Make sure you tell her that what is happening to her isn't her fault and you love her no matter what. Then surprise her and take her away for a romantic weekend to reinforce what you just said. :)

  • 1 decade ago

    shes going through a lot..

    if you can afford it.......why dont you take her on a romantic relaxing getaway where she can get lost in the scenery.....sometimes the best medicine is to just get away from it all......

    cruise to the bahamas..........go to a mountain resort....something captivating that will take her mind off of things..........

    on another note while you are there....make it the most romantic encounter you two have had.....roses on the bed...dinner in the stars....heck even have sex on the beach....women are very emotional.....you are not even seeing close to EVERYTHING shes experiencing inside! I guarantee she will feel better after a nice getaway

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