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After 14 years of marriage what would you do if you found out that your husband has been telling people....?
for the past 10 yrs that:
1) life with you(his wife) is a living hell
2) he despises having any intimacy with you
3) he doesn't want any more children with you
4) he never loved you and never will
5) he fights with you 50% of the time
6) he tells people that you're a liar
7)that your faith is weak
8) sends his mother to do his dirty work for him..ie to tell you that he doesn't love you
9) he's online pretending to be divorced when he's at home with you
10) denies he has 5 kids and states that he has 4. It's like where did the 5th one go?
what do you do with such a man. His excuses are unreal. He says that when you're online you can't say 5. It states 5+ but am I retarded doesn't 5+ mean 5 or more? then to have one of his girlfriends email you to throw this all in your face for almost a year. The online girlfriend tells you everything including the night of intimacy they had when you were on vacation visiting your parents.
what do you do? it's been going on for 10yrs
most of it is true if not all of it but why tell people? why tell your girlfriends. He's also had multiple women at the same time and still pretended to be single with 4 kids with his wife and not at home. Meanwhile he was at home with the wife and kids. Also this girlfriend has told me all of this and there's no way she knows all of this unless he told her or worse his family told her things as well. We've always had problems but this is the worst. Don't know what to do.
oh he also states on his profiles that he doesn't want blondes. By the way I'm a blonde!
as gedagrip said, it's atrocious. His family encouraged it and they also told his last gf stories about me calling the cops on his mom once. Long story but the gf knew about it. it happened 6 yrs ago and she knew I lied in December about something as well. UH!
this problem is 100% true. he is a scumbag because his gf just emailed me last week to tell me things. He's still emailing her because he's mad that she told me these things.
15 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
sweet lady i feel for you I see plenty of people with marital problems in here some fake some real .
if yours is real you are not just neglected you are also being mentally abused by you husband .
The fact that his family is also behind him in the treatment you have received is atrocious .
I would say that a man who treats you like this has no love no respect and no faith , So if you have family of your own and an income move back close to your family .
If you are a stay at home mom look at welfare and relocation .
this guy doesn't deserve you by his side
and you can do so much better
Source(s): leaving someone you love is hard but leaving someone that you don't is easy don't confuse love with loyalty love you gave him your loyalty he earns and it sounds like he is all out of cash - 1 decade ago
FILE FOR DIVORCE AND FIND A REAL MAN, not some sneaking scum that needs to go behind your back, what are you? the back up plan? do you like sloppy seconds and thirds and forths? Quit being a door mat and RUN DON'T WALK to the nearest divorce attourney, before he gives you something that can ruin the rest of your life, or substantially shorten it, like AIDS or maybe herpies, how about syphillis? if he's passing himself around like a pot luck hot dish, then when you screw him, you are also screwing every woman he's had. YUCK!! Keep the copies of the emails from his girlfriends, and sue for custody of the kids. They don't need to grow up with that kind of role model, and to deny your own kids, that would really make them feel loved, wouldn't it!!
- 1 decade ago
I would say the problem is YOU. Let me explain.....
He is a @## hole, pig and a Jerk- Given. No Argument!!!
But what the Hell is wrong with you that you are talking to his "girlfirends" ?? And you hear all this stuff?? For 10 years?? Sorry honey, but at this point you either enjoy the torture or you deserve it for being a fool! I just can't feel sorry for you if you choose to stay with this man and deal with his girlfirends. Have you no self-respect?
I hope at least you get yourself tested for STD's since it sounds like you have resolved yourself to being treated like dirt. You ask "what do you do?"
I would have been out the door after #1...
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well afte 14yrs, i think that you need to walk out, take the kids with you and start a new life.
He obviously doesnt want to be in a marriage with children, let alone a monogamas relationship.
Cut your losses, 12 months, you will know that its the best thing that you did for you and the kids.
Why would you want to stay with someone, who says such things about the mother of his children?
Take the computer with you to......lol
Good Luck
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
Get a good lawyer and take him for everything he has or will have in the future. And if you wanna be a real B**** get onto his email and tell all the girls that you are his wife he sleeps with you everynite and they need to go find a different man.
Good Luck
Source(s): Divorced and ex did the exact same - 1 decade ago
I say it's time to serve the ungreatful cheating man some divorce papers. Get him good with child support for all FIVE of the kids, maybe then he will realize that he shouldn't have been messing around and lying.
- AprilLv 61 decade ago
What would I do? Hon, I wouldn't have even been with the guy for 10days, much less 10 years... what WERE you thinking. And if I had just found out about it, I would be seeing a shrink to find out how I could have had my head in the sand for so long............ Then, of course, I be leaving this marriage.... pronto
- Nancy MLv 71 decade ago
If you are not happy with the man then why stay with him? He sounds like he is the one with the problems. Get out if you can support yourself and find someone who will have respect for you. Your husband sounds like he has alot of growing up to do.
- JessieLv 41 decade ago
I would leave, but I also wouldn't be asking strangers for their opinion. I would accept the fact that he doesn't want to be married and I would leave. I would've left a looong time ago. I wouldn't even be that mad just done!
- 1 decade ago
Very, very simple answer here. You go to a lawyer and file for divorce then take this fool for every penny that he makes for the next umteen years.
