I think some of my wedding invitations were lost in the mail!! What do I do?

You do the same thing the Knowing Bride does anyhow -- you (or a designate) make calls to confirm that the invitation was received.

First, it gives you faster results that waiting for the RSVP cards to come trickling in.

Second, it gives you a chance to reinforce control of your guest list, as in "We're looking forward to meeting your step-son's cousin's parents, but I'm afraid we've had to limit the guest list to people we know and care about."

Third, and best, in the course of the call they may ASK what sort of gift the couple would like. While it would be rude to bring the subject up yourself, if they ASK -- why then TELL them!

If people need "official" invitations and didn't receive them, then you can send them pretty postcards and confirm by phone in a week. Handwritten postcards and notes are (honest!) more correct and elegant than machine produced ones, but computerized message and address are fine, as long as you scrawl a few words and initial them.

BTW, It wouldn't breach the rules of etiquette if you (or your designate)repeated these calls 5-10 days before the wedding, to "make sure no one needs to cancel." This second call has all the virtues of the first.

I guess it depends on how big a wedding you are planning. If it were me, I would call the people that I really wanted to attend and expect to attend (close family/friends) and see if they got their invitations. If you sent all your invitations out at the same time, it's unlikely that huge amounts of them got lost in the mail. Maybe you sent them bundled together and one "bundle" was lost in the mail? Think back to how you mailed them out and that may answer your question as to who received & who didn't. If you send them in bundles (maybe alphabetical or by family or some other way), then you may be able to figure out which "group" was missing. Personally, in all the years that I have been sending out mail/invitations, etc, I don't think the postal service has ever lost a piece of my mail. It's shocking, I know, but I just don't think it has ever happened. So, it's likely the people that are claiming that they didn't get it, just misplaced or you could have a bad address list. That is the more likely problem. Make some phone calls, find out who (if anyone else) didn't receive invitations and confirm that you had the right address. Instead of mailing out new invitations or e-vites, just let those who didn't get their invitations know the details about your wedding. Also, is it possible you didn't put enough postage on them. I know someone this happened to and they were horrified because they spent tons of money on postage only to have almost all their invitations eventually returned (ruined by insufficient postage markings). It sometimes takes awhile for return mail to come back. So, you might want to watch for that too. Don't worry..... I bet you can find a way (without too much expense) to make sure all your most "valued" guests know how to get to your wedding. Hope this helps. Good luck! Congrats on the wedding.

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Don't do e-vites. They are so impersonal.

Either reprint the invites and risk the mail again or if possible, hand deliver them. Otherwise you can simply verbally let the people know their invitations were lost and see if they will RSVP with you.

If you are really worried you can send them certified where they will have a tracking number and possibly have the guests sign for them so if they do get lost the post office can find them or reimburse you.

I will warn you that "lost in the mail invitation" is sometimes an excuse for people who lost if themselves or were busted not sending back their RSVP cards.

Try www.evite.com if you want to go with a e-invitation. Otherwise, I suggest that you go with the do-it-yourself idea. Just to ensure your friends get the information, send them an email (or evite) containing the important details such as date, time, and location so they have it readily available.

Expect some invited, "un-expected" well wishers at the bar.

With unsigned moneyless cards for the bride. <}:-})