Losing my virginity...?

You will always be nervous for your first time.

I think waiting until 20 and until you are truly in love is commendable in this day and age. But DO be certain this is the one you want to lose your virginity to, and DO be certain to use protection!!

You don't want your first time to end up being something you regret!

I think a few months is not quite long enough to get to know someone well enough to trust them with your body though... if you think you can wait, then you should try.

One way to relax and "just do it" is to have a glass or 2 of wine in the privacy of your own home (since you're not 21 make sure you're not out and about). Don't get drunk... just a glass or 2 will just help calm your nerves.

the part of your question that makes me say "wait" most of all though, is "everytime we get close I don't know whether I want to actually go through with it". If you're not SURE, then wait until you are!

i have been there and done that yet i did not put any pressure on myself unlike you..it is a good thing that you have a boyfriend who has the patience to wait for you since most guys do not..for me going through this whole thing was a blur to be honest..one minute we are kissing,next we are making out and then you get the idea..i know that it is a scary idea and thought yet you need to think about when it feels right to you and that includes timing..if you have sex and you are freaked out then that would not be a good experience..i have some advice though: it will hurt when you have sex and how much it hurts depends on the person...after i had sex for the first time i wanted to cry and it was weird..i am not saying that this will happen to you too but i am telling you what has happened to me which might help you..also tell your bf if you do not want to go with it like halfway through or if you do not feel comfortable..you are confused and scared..think of what you want and if thetiming is right go for it!best of luck and i hope that i was of some help!

icycrissy

First, I would talk to him about it. Be honest about how you're feeling, and just let things happen. If you end up having sex--and it's a great sign that he's not pressuring you--then just do it right (birth control, darling) and let it come when it happens. You'll lose it when the time is right when you feel absolutely secure in your decision.

Please don't just "relax and just do it", if you're 20 and still a virgin then this is obviously a big deal for you. A few months is not all that long to really "know" someone.

You will know when you are ready to have sex, it's when you have to have it, not just want to, but really must because it's the right time and the right person and you will just know.

So please trust your gut feeling and if you're not ready and he's the right guy then he will wait until you are ready, you won't regret waiting until the time is right.

If you didn't have some reservations about this ,then it would just happen. This is the little voice in your head called concience and it is telling you that something isn't quite right. A few months isn't that long, so give yourself a little more time and wait until it does feel right. If he is the right one, then he will wait, and if he doesn't wait, then you didn't "give something precious away" to someone who wasn't worthy.

my g/f has the same problem. we are in love and have been dating for a while, but everytime wehave an intimate moment she kind of freezes up. she feels that it because she doesn't want to throw her virginity away on someone who might not be around forever.

I say just do it and don't worry. nobody knows who will stay or go. and don't worry bout messing up cause it is your first time. just do it and learn if needed.

Continue your relationship without sex for a bit longer, then you will know whether to go all the way or not. Once you are sure, you won't ask on Yahoo Answers!

Good luck!

If you're nervous, you're not ready. And if you're not ready, you're not going to lubricate, which will make the experience a nightmare for you.

When the right time comes, you won't be nervous and thinking about "what's next" will be far from your mind.

Take some more time before you decide to have sex.

since you are under 21 i cant advice alcohol, if i did it would be a small amt, one glass of wine perhaps.

and lots of time and affection, kissing petting, dont worry if it just a quickie you two may have a good laugh at being silly.

then, chill and try again, it gets REALLY good with practice, love and patience.

BIRTH CONTROL !!!!