My husband is an alcoholic?

My father is an alcoholic and I see the damage and hurt it brings to everyone that loves that person. First i would like to sympathize to you, i am sorry your husband is like that, but to tell you the best answer is AL-ANON. this is a organization that helps people who have a loved one that is an alcoholic. I can't tell you enough on what a great and wonderful program it is. It gives you back your sanity and serenity. Please, please try it and read their literature.

Now the first thing you need to realize that is you can NOT control it or him. ITs not up to you to change his life but change yours. See what your shortcoming are and deal with them. You will find that if you better yourself you better any situation that you can be in, especially dealing with your husband. Don't take responsibility for him, he has to learn the hard way the consequences for the choices he has made, whether its missing work, not paying bills, feeling sick etc... Be good to yourself, do things that make you happy, don't let his alcoholism run your life and happiness. You have the power within you to let yourself be happy, don't try to stay in martyrdom. Pity him, for he is a miserable person that beats himself up with drinking. Don't fight with him, or react to his drunkenness. This is easier said then done but don't say or do things that will make you regret, be patient with him for your own sanity. And remember to let go and let God help him. Let go in a loving way so he can be his own person and see in his own time the damage he is doing to himself. Take one day at a time, make each day better, learn from your mistakes, pity him and be happy its all up to you. Don't let him ruin you.

I would leave him a note or a letter on his car, lunch, or pants telling him how I feel. Always talk to him when he is not drunk, don't argue or fight with him when he is drunk... it’s just a waste of time and energy. I would try to give him responsibilities like errands and maintenance jobs to keep him from drinking. I would live my life until he is ready to get help and not let him hold me back.

You need to get him on Antapuse. This medication is used along with counseling and support to treat alcoholism. Disulfiram works by blocking the processing of alcohol in the body. This causes you to have a bad reaction when you drink alcohol. Get in contact with your rehab center or doctor for more info.

This is a long road downhill. Talk to his friends if he has any that care about his behavior. You should get counseling at least for yourself and prepare for the worst- you may have to give him an ultimatum. It may just be depression and he needs help, or just an answer to his problem he is running from. If you can find out the problem, then try to fix it if you can.

I would leave unless he got help. Alcoholism is a deal breaker for me. I grew up with an alcoholic father. You might have to take extreme measures to get him to realize that he'll lose you unless he gets some help. I've seen it work, I've also seen it not work. Depends. Good luck :)

Your husband has a sickness and as a wife it is your duty to stand by him and help him.It is not your duty to waste your life standing by someone who wont accept help.Do all that you possibly can but if he doesn't get off his butt and start listening to your advice, leave him.Your husband is lucky to have someone who is willing to help but only he can overcome this illness if he is willing to try.Be strong and if the time comes when you feel it is time to go,than so be it.Don't let your husbands failure to fight this disease drag you down because it will destroy your life .Good luck.

I really feel for you because I'm going through the same thing and I'm sorry to say unless he wants to quit it usually only gets worse. Unless you want to deal with it all you can do is tell him how you feel and give him a choice than the decision to save your marriage is his.

Well, my husband is finally realizin' that he's messin' up by drinkin'........Every time he hangs w/ his uncles(that's all they do when they wake up, I don't think they even sleep) he ends up drinkin'....Comin' home later, missini' work the next day, runnin' into fences, fightin' w/ some haters......I'm tired of all that. I don't want that life...& I'm tired of takin' care of his daughter(we got custody over her) for him to take off & have his lil' fun while I stay home w/ the kids & worry about him........

He'll see once u leave him or God shows him.

I would refuse to live with an alcoholic. I'd leave and let him know he's not going to put any stress in my life.

I would leave him...by staying with him you are enabling him to drink...until he sees what he has to lose from his alcoholism he will continue to drink without getting the help he needs.