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Please give me your input?
Here's my situation. I met a girl in college that I just connected with. The type of person that just clicks with me. She's an awesome girl. I got the vibe that she was attracted to me, we hung out, blah blah, when I made it more obvious I was attracted to her, she told me she has a boyfriend (to make it worse he goes to West Point-talk about competition!), after she had given me signals that she was interested.
She was nice in her rejection of me. She told me she wasn't good with guys, and she's had this problem before. I figure it was mostly true; but I know as well as one can that she was attracted to me.
Question-Do you think she was challenging me by telling me she had a boyfriend as I was moving in? The type of thing where I've got to proclaim my love for her and win her over? Sheer honesty? I didn't do anything, I respected what she told me. I really like her, but at the same time I don't want to try to wreck her relationship, I simply like her too much...
Any input please?
2 Answers
- JoeLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
Tough one mate you're not in a winning situation either way. If you keep pressing you are the interloper - if you leave you may be abandoning true love.
No - I don't think she was challenging you - I think she was telling you the truth. It sounds too familiar to me as I have been in this situation a few times when I was younger.
For your sake you are probably better off staying away. If you have much more to do with her you run the risk of really falling for her and then causing yourself grief.
Look why not tell her that is the case - say you're sorry she has a bf she loves (that might make her think - maybe she doesn't love him - she's giving off signs for some reason!!) - and because you really like her and are in danger of falling for her you will keep your distance.
See what happens. When this happened to me the first few times I hung around like a love-sick puppy - fell for her and hurt myself. Then I realised what was going on and stopped that approach - it was much easier.
When she breaks up with bf - then you can try again :)
Joe
- 1 decade ago
you came on to strong , there is no bf. that was a evasive maneuver. if u know a chick likes u play it cool n let the anxiety build women love a challenge but hate a lost puppy
