Help me!!! What do I do???

Ask him if he is willing to go to marriage counseling. If not then you should get some for yourself because you need to learn to be strong for yourself and your children.

I know it is hard but, you and your children might be better off for it. Don't let him run all over you. You deserve better.

First of all, you need to get him to sit down with you so you can both discuss what the issues are. It's as important to be a good listener as well as to be open with your own feelings. With each issue that comes up, ask how can we fix this ? What needs to be done differently? Even if the solution seems to be something you dont believe in or are comfortable with, it's important to follow up with a question "If I did/acted/accepted in the manner which you say is the solution, would the issue be resolved? Or is there more to it than this?

Ask good questions, listen with an open mind, and don't interupt the other. Most of the issues will be central to one point - you haven't been good communicators and as a result, the issues have grown into bigger and uglier problems.

Did you expect this already? Even when the other one says it is done, it can be rekindled. See if he will do marriage counseling, let him know it wouldn't hurt to try. Always remember, you can only do so much. Do everything you can, but know if things don't work out you did what you could do and try not to hang on to it. Even if you can make it work, don't change yourself into something you are not for him. He knew who he was getting when he married you. You still have to have your own identity and not be there for his becken call. Hang in there. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!!!

He has clearly made up his mind. Accept this because there are reasons why he is doing this and you may not see it now, but it is probably in your best interest. I know you love him but now you need to love him from a distance.

My soon to be ex told me along time ago he needed space and wanted to live somewhere else without me and the kids. He really wasn't worth my crying and begging. He wanted to see what else was out there.

Have you talked heart to heart with him to find out why? Because it sounds as if you may have done something to him or what you may not be doing for him that he needs.

Best wishes for you and your kids. Prepare yourself the best you can emotionally and financially.

Info. reqd. more! Still the sensible way is - tell him if he really hates you he has his own reasons & if he feels that even if u both work to resolve the differences it still would be in vain, BUT REMIND HIM THAT WHENEVER HE HAS TIME JUST GIVE A THOUGHT TO THE FACT THAT IF HE HAS THE RIGHT TO MESS AROUND WITH TWO LIVES (6 & 4 yrs. of age) THEN HE SURELY WOULDN'T BE ABSOLVED OF IT BY 'THAT ' WHO GAVE HIM THIS POWER! Time heals & life goes own. Though whenever he will stand in front of the mirror & look into his eyes...........REPENT AS MUCH BUT NO MERCY !

You do not say why he is leaving you. First stop whining, complaining and nagging. Then, get to a counselor immediately. Yes, this can be saved, but you have to change your way of thinking and behaving.

Get the book called: "The proper care and feeding of a husband" and "The Surrendered Wife".

Both links are on the bottom. Good Luck and take care of yourself and the children.

Suggest the marriage consueling. If he still insists on seperation then you should let him go. If you truely love him, you would want to give him what he needs. Never force him to do something he does not want as it may cause resentment. All you can do is show him your loyalty and faithfuliness to him. I know its easier said than done.

I would give this one last shot---try to talk to him and tell him your feelings....but it does sound like he has his mind made up. He needs to know that the grass isnt greener on the other side...he sounds like he has another place to go, but he will find out later----things may not turn out quite like he thought, Good luck and I hope you can have talks with your husband and get it worked out. Divorce is not fun.

Read the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura. It will do wonders for you on how to treat your man.

Good luck!

You have to accept that he wants out of the relationship... Get a lawyer and Get everything you possibly can out of this jerk!!! Then move on, love yourself, love your kids and have a great life! He'll see what he threw away and will regret it! By that time, you won't care!