I feel like I'm giving too much?

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I love being generous and doing things for other people and I very typically cater to others (example: I ALWAYS stay at my BF's house, always packing clothes and such to "cater" to him since he has decent reasons why he can't stay at my apt.) and for the most part, I'm ok with it but every once in a while, I feel like I'm missing some of that return generousity. (My BF is now flaking on going with me to my Dad's for the weekend, something he already agreed to do and has stupid reasons for not wanting to go now). My question is, am I being petty or can't I sometimes want people to go out of their way for me too???

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Be careful,Doc.There are many self centered users in this world.You deserve a pay off for all that you do.The door swings both ways.

sscl15 · Answer

You do deserve to be catered to once in a while!  When you are in a relationship, things should be equal.  If one person is doing more, its not fair.  You should talk to your boy and tell him how you are feeling.  That is the only way he is going to change his ways.  Maybe he doesn't realize that things are so one-sided.  If he doesn't change, then maybe there is someone else out there that will make you happier.  Thats what it is all about!! Are you happy??

MiaDiva28 · Answer

You sound like a mother figure. Dont feel like you always have to do something nice for someone. IF you keep getting the same feeling everytime, then maybe take a step back and evaulate what is going on what steps you can take to fix it. I wouldnt depend on someone else to make me happy or to go out of their way to help you.

Steph · Answer

I am the same way.  But you do not give in hopes to receive.  If you think you are giving too much, pull back.  You can not make someone step up to the plate.  Maybe he will get a clue if you stop doing so much, which will also make you feel better about not feeling so used in the relationship.

knightofyourmom · Answer

It's impossible to give too much, because unfortunately in this world, alot of good deeds go unrewarded. If you feel you're "giving too much" then you're doing it for the wrong reasons aren't you?

There's no limit on how much you can give, but there's a line where if you're not happy giving, then KNOCK IT OFF.

:P

Anonymous · Answer

dear it sounds like your giving 110% and he's givin 80%. it needs to be 110% from both sides or nothing at all.... he needs to go to your dads this weekend, that was the plan he needs to be a man and go.

Anonymous · Answer

r u his gf or his maid???
n wots he showing u in turn...???
he is taking all tht u do for him for granted..  hav a talk to him bout it.

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