Who hosts the wedding and how do you word it?

with a split like that, it's really up to the bride how to word it. I chose to error on the side of my parents, as a bit of respect to them. you could word it like :

"mr and mrs bridelastname

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

bridesfullname

to

groomsfullname,

son of mr and mrs groomslastname

on the number day of month of the year 2222"

there are a TON of variations of this. look around on theknot.com and a few other websites and find a wording you're comfortable with.

It's up to you. I would put your parents names but if you really want people to know that you are paying for half then you can put your names instead. I think it's nice to have the parents because they have been waiting to invite people to see their daughter get married their entire life. The custom of putting the groom's. parents names on the invite, unless they are paying is something new. I have only seen one invite like that of all the ones I've ever received. I don't think it's necessary.

I would ask the bride's parents what they prefer so there are no hurt feelings. Show them 2 or 3 drafts.....just type something up in Microsoft Word and ask them which one they like. That way, they can't complain or be hurt if you leave their names off. Here is an example:

"Mr. and Mrs. _____(insert their name) are overjoyed to announce the marriage of their daughter, ______(insert your name) to ________ (insert groom's name), son of __________(insert groom's parent's name), ______(insert date) at _________(insert location)."

You can find many, many more examples of invitation by just doing a simple internet search.

"Who is acting as host?" and "Who is paying?" are not necessarily one and the same. If there is general agreement that the bride's parents are acting as hosts, then the wording should be the traditional

Mr & Mrs Robert Herside

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter etc etc etc

And yes, you are correct that the most usual "work around" when this wording just won't do is to omit any reference to hosts and hosting at all, as in

The pleasure of your company is requested

at the marriage of Miss Rowena Herside

to Mr Frederick Hisside etc etc etc

With this form, it would seem rather lopsided to mention Miss Herside's parents without also mentioning those of Mr Hisside.

How you word the invitation has nothing to do with whom is paying. You include both sets of parents' names, simply because it shows the relationship as their children, and respect for them.

An example -

The honour of your presence is requested

to witness the exchange of marriage vows of

Jane Linda,

daughter of Frank and Susan Smith

and

Joe Henry,

son of George and Lola Jones,

Saturday, the thirteen of July..... etc.

The standard wedding invitation information would probably be just fine. You would list them first if you opted to list both parents. Check out these examples.

http://www.bridesmate.com/i_word2.asp?type=INVITAT...

hmm im not sure. i would just because it looks better. and the way you normally put it would be

Mr. and Mrs. (dads last name)

would like to you join us for the marriage of

(Your first and middle name)

and

(grooms first and last name )

on date. time and place

I knwo its not perfect ill find u a site

Good luck and congrats i hope all goes perfect

Together with their parents

Brides name

&

Grooms name

blah blah blah

You would typically state something like:

Together with her (their) parents,

Bride

and

Groom

cordially invite you to....

or any variation thereof, depending on your invitation style