why is my bf of 4 years doubting me!??

well 5 months and a long distance relationship can be hard on a mind, wondering what you are doing and if you are lonely, and fall into the trap of a smooth talker in a moment of weakness and also doubting himself as a boyfriend. its a huge pitfall of long distance relationship. why would these people say anything if it wasnt anything to worry about, yes things can get misunderstood, because its an interpritation. is there any truth to the rumor! you may not have cheated by doing another guy, but have to made a emotional connection with someone, that is cheating as well.

or the flip side, he cheated on you and now blameing you and thinking that you have done it as well....and this is how he gets out his guilt

Have you given him any reason to not trust you? Long distance are almost impossible to maintain. I've been there and it didn't work out. Are you lying? Be honest as this will only help. Maybe he needs some space or the relationship wasn't strong enough to begin with. If he doesn't trust you after 4 years, then I don't think he will ever trust you again. I don't know the dynamics of your relationship or your ages, but let it go but get some closure. Obviously he has listened to others , but have you listened to each other? Ask him point blank if there is any hope for your relationship. If he blows you off or tells you no..........move on and learn by the mistakes you both have made. He lied when he said he wouldn't listen to other people and he betrayed you.This is how we grow and mature in relationships. Hopefully we learn by our mistakes and correct them. Don't fight something that is gone unless it can be worked out . That takes two. Wishing you well and good luck in relationships . If the trust is gone........it's over and not the end of your life. So many years ahead of you with many possibilities.

Probably because he has moved on, so he thinks you have as well but trying to keep him on the string. I was in the service and it was HARD on both of us. Especial since the females were just as horny as we were. Sitting 10 feet from one another in the dark woods. Things happen. If it was meant to be you to would find a way to see each other more often. 5 Months is about 20 Weeks. Basic training is only 9 Weeks. AIT. is anywhere from 2 Weeks up to who knows. I know people who couldn't make it threw basic with out some kind of sex.

u know being in a 4 year relationship does not gurantee trust, it depends on the two of u,i believe that u should talk it out and let him see that he needs to trust u because having an issue of trust in a relationship can cause the breakdown of the realtionship.

I guess he's still having trouble making adjustments to your guys relationship now. He probably feels that he can't protect you from "suitors" and is afraid that you'll find somebody new because he can't be there by your side.

You should try to have a conversation with him telling him how you feel about all of this. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship.

If you are not right in front of the guy and they cant see what your doing they seem to loose it and start to have trust issues. If hes really that important you'll find some way to work things out.

It seems that he may be on your case because he is worried about himself. Alot of the time if some is cheating they will feel guilty and blame the other person in the relationship of being unfaithful.

When someone all of a sudden starts to doubt you without reason, it is usually because they are feeling guilty for something that they are doing. I would check that out. He may just be the one that is cheating on you.

Look for the other woman. I have seen this happen several times-he feels guilty & hopes you are fooling around too. This doesn't come out of the blue-take a close look at his activities!

look sweetheart, boys are always possessive in nature and they will take every freedom but sametime they do not allow their gf to do so. if you keep explaining he will doubt you more. give explaination one time then ask him to put him in your shoe.

otherwise let the time pass it will tell you the true story. if you love him and he loves you then he will come to you. and if you love him and he find another he will start ignore you or demand for some unusual things...

dont take tension... you care for him it suggest that you have golden heart. and one can not leave such a golden heart