Whats etiquette? Gifts received in mail before shower or wedding.?

I think either way is fine. I think I would just send them all at the same time. Congrats on getting married! :)

Your not required to do either. But etiquette says you give presents twice. They are two seperate occasions all together. If your birthday was near christmas, would you be happy if someone said here's your birthday christmas present? If the shower is themed, then definately get her a present. It might be where she gets all of her lingerie for the wedding night. You can't get those kind of presents at your wedding. Get her something inexpensive but meaningful for one, and get her a normal gift for the other. But do not show up to a shower empty handed. If there are 30 people there, they will notice if you did not bring a gift. Your a lot more conspicous if you don't bring a gift to the wedding than a shower. Honestly, the bride is probably just happy that you are there. So have fun :)

Either way is fine. The guests will understand. The first time I got married, we had recieved four gifts before the shower and we didn't send out thank yous until after the wedding. Now that I'm getting married again, we just sent out the invites and have recieved to two presents, one from a person that cannot attend the shower and wedding and one that can attend both and we decided to send Thank Yous out after the shower.

I think you can wait until after the wedding, but I wouldn't. Write them as you receive the gifts. And no, don't thank them for the "wedding" gift. Thank them for what they gave you (If they got you a toaster- say something like, Thank you so much for the toaster- it looks wonderful in our kitchen! We truly appreciate your thinking of us during this special time in our lives.) If you say that, they might still get you a gift for the wedding, too- especially if they got a thank you card right away from the last gift they gave. Also, make sure you keep a list of gifts, who they were from, when they were received, and when and if you sent a thank you note yet. Keep it hanging on the wall in your house, so you will always have it handy. I hope this helps!

Oh, you must acknowledge the receipt of the gift right away. Don't wait until after a shower or wedding or anything that far down the line. Send out your thank you cards NOW. Anybody who will be at the shower might bring additional gifts, which you will also have to write notes for.

I had the same thing happen and I did them immediately. It meant the person knew the gift was received, but it also means less to worry about right out after the reception (when you will get the bulk of the gifts). It is definitely a wedding gift unless you get it specifically at a engagement party that is way ahead of time.

You have two weeks to send a thank you card for gifts received before the wedding. That is, two weeks from the time they were received. The shower date doesn't matter.

Gifts received at the wedding have a month thank you card time.

Since it is impossible to know if the gift was considered wedding (therefor, final) gift or shower (meaning, possibly more to come for wedding) the safest choice is to simply send out a Thank You for the gift, or naming what the actual gift was like thank you for the towels, they are lovely and I am sure we will enjoy them so the sender knows it was received and appreciated. If you wait until after the shower or wedding the sender will likely feel un-appreciated and have hurt feelings and/or consider you rude.

I found this online, which confirms what I was thinking as well.

"The current guidelines for wedding gift thank you notes are that the notes should be sent within three months of receipt of gifts. However, given the potential monumental task that would pose to the bride and groom after their honeymoon, it makes sense to send notes out as soon as gifts are received (often wedding gifts are sent prior to the wedding date)."

I agree. You're going to have a TON of thank you cards to write after the wedding, why not get one out of the way and let the sender know you've gotten and appreciate they gift already!

I would omit "shower" from your TY notes, just say "wedding gift" if you are not sure - but send them out as you receive your gifts, it will save you tons of trouble later.

There will be other people who send you gifts early who may not even be invited to the wedding, it's still a "Wedding Gift"

the longer you wait the harder it is to find the time to do it...send them as you receive the gifts so you don't have to think about it...you will have a bulk mailing after the shower but you will know after the wedding that some of the thanks have been sent...less work after a honeymoon!!