Is he becoming an alcoholic? This is a really long story?

I'm not going to tell you yes or no. I'm going to direct you to several websites that can help you decide for yourself. Here is a quote from a mental health website that may shine some light on the subject:

"People with an alcohol abuse problem:

*Use alcohol to help them change the way they feel about themselves and/or some aspect(s) of their lives.

*Experience some problems associated with their alcohol use but use those experiences to set appropriate limits on how much and how often they drink.

*Seldom, if ever, repeat the alcohol-related behaviors that have caused them problems in the past.

*Get complaints about their alcohol use and accept those complaints as expressions of concern for their well-being.

People who are addicted to alcohol:

*Experience negative consequences associated with drinking but continue to drink despite those consequences.

*Set limits on how much or how often they will drink but unexpectedly exceed those limits.

*Promise themselves and/or other people that they will drink in moderation but break those promises.

*Feel guilty or remorseful about their drinking but still fail to permanently alter the way they drink.

*Get complaints about their drinking and resent, discount, and/or disregard those comments and complaints. "

Even if he isn't an actual alcoholic, he definitely has a problem with alcohol, and is headed in the direction of alcoholism. You need to know that you can't change his behavior, only HE can do that. What you can do is work on yourself ~ you can get tools to cope with his behavior, and you can learn how not to enable his alcohol problem. I strongly recommend Al-Anon, which is an organization for people who are dealing with loved ones that have a problem with alcohol. My parents were alcoholics and it really helped me to go to Al-Anon meetings. I hope you get the help you need, because it sounds like you're dealing with a bad situation that will only get worse.

Find a local Al-Anon meeting here:

http://www.al-anonfamilygroups.org/meetings/meetin...

Try the websites below. And best of luck to you.

He is both alcoholic (which mean that he can't stop drinking) and has a drinking disorder (which mean that he can't control the amount he drinks) while each of these are usually found in the same person they are not exactly the same, but they are equally dangerous.

The other problem with alcohlics is that even though they can stop drinking they can't stop the personality traits that lead to it, which is either one of two (if not both):

a) impulsiveness

b) Selfishness and the disregard for the others.

That is why I advice you to tell him to stop drinking or otherwise leave him before it gets any deeper, because your story is the early chapter in a story that ends up with you being the abused partner, who lost her life because sshe loved an alcoholic too much, it will also serve him as a shock that will remind him that he is on the wrong track.

I don't know what age he is? but in you're 20 th's Its more likely he has got a stressful life and when he has the chance wants to let his hair down once and awhile? rather than he is an alcoholic. So it might that he is under pressure , work , relation ship to perform right? I would be concerned if it was every day or every week.. He will grow out off it whan the time is right (wild days are over) I dont think you should pressure him in any way that never works you only get the opposite hope that helps you further.don't worrie to much about it . good luck

Your boyfriend sounds like he has a drinking problem. I was married to a man who would only drink when he would go out with his friends and then come home and pass out. He stopped drinking like that but then it got only worse. He started drinking almost every night except the weekends. He stopped drinking and started AA. It was a mess for a long time in my home when all the drinking stopped. We got divorced because I just could not stand the man. It sounds like your boyfriend may need AA but for him to go he will have to admit that he is an alcoholic.

It doesn't matter that he only drinks when he goes out. He's binge drinking and gets out of control to the point where you have to carry him? Yes, that IS a drinking problem and you are not over-reacting. The fact that he gets violent when he drinks is only going to get him into more trouble. Your boyfriend needs help even though he may not think he does. Denial is a problem for alcoholics. You really need to talk to him and make him realize that he has a problem and try to get him some help before something worse happens.

Yes it definitely sounds like it. My boyfriend used to be an alcohlic, then he got a DUI & had to go to rehab to avoid going to jail but besides getting him out of jail it also managed to transform him. He had to go through a lot of work but once he managed to stop drinking, smoking & doing drugs and get his life together, he began to help other people at AA meetings, etc. and that's what's kept him from drinking because even if an alcoholic has been without drinking for a while & starts again even with just a little drink, they could immediately start to regress again.

So yes, my point is your boyfriend should get some help, go to AA meetings, couseling, whatever. It's better to help him now then wait till it's too late.

He is an Alcoholic and needs to seek help. Getting totally blitzed every time he drinks , is a sure sign he's not a social drinker. I won't tell you to leave him, you will when you can't take it any more. But ,I can tell you that you will be disappointed more often then not , and passing out will not be the only consequence of his binging .

Don't even need what didn't show yes my dear your boyfriend is stone cold alkie he cannot hold his liquor and he will promise you the moon many times to never drink again. Many drunks don't drink at home. Tell him to get help or get lost before he becomes an angry drunk and takes it out on you. Been there done that.

To answer your question shortly, no.

Just because someone is not able to control the amount of alcohol they drink when they choose to drink does NOT mean they are automatically an alcoholic. It simply means that your boyfriend is unwilling to control his drinking habits.

Signs of alcoholism to look for are: hiding alcohol around the house and drinking alone, always making excuses/justifications for drinking, always planning when and where they will drink next (and unwilling to go anywhere that alcohol will not be available), not being able to eat a full meal (chronic alcohol abuse will effectively make your stomach shut down its normal processes to deal with the alcohol) and of course the withdraw symptoms for those times that the alcoholic does not have access to alcohol.

Be gentle, and be very careful as you try to influence your boyfriends drinking choices. If he is an alcoholic (and it turns out you just didn't see the full picture), he could die of the WITHDRAW symptoms, so DONT make him go cold turkey. Of course, he will most likely die of alcohol if he is an alcoholic, so I guess you could pose the question to him that way. In any case, be careful with drastic life changes and definitely consult a substance abuse specialist for any specific quesions.

Yes, there is cause for concern when a person drinks like that. A normal person can have a couple of drinks and be fine with it, but a binge drinker drinks until they blackout or pass out. He should probably seek some kind of help for it.