What do you say to a 6yr old about her parents divorce?

denise if she isnt in your care right now theres really nothing you can do or say to her she's confused and scared and wondering what she did to make the new mum hate her , but this is what I told my children they were aged 18 months , 4 , 7 and 9 when their dad and I seperated.

Daddy is moving out and we're going to stay here and he will come and visit you and take you for weekends and some afternoon's to your football practice (that was to the 7 and 9 year olds) we both love you very much and we're still here when you need us to talk to if daddy is home from work you can ring the house he is staying at , then they asked me questions and I answered them as best as I could think of at the time.

My 7 year old asked if he could stay with me because he doesnt like daddy so he didnt want to spend weekends alone with him (they always had a horrid relationship which I tried to mend from the time he learnt how to speak) I replied sweety daddy loves you and you only disagree because daddy see's himself in you when he was your age it's ok you'll be fine.

My 9 year old asked if I loved daddy still , I replied with no baby mummy doesnt love daddy anymore but our love for each other was different then our love for you 4 babies and we'll never stop loving you ever.

hugs were exchanged and we ate dinner and sat down and watched a movie and laughed and had a tickle fest , my 4 year old son looked at me i asked whats up he said you never played tickle fest with us when daddy was here were you to sad to play , I about cried.

Some time's the wisest children are the younger children.

that's great which you're so in touch for the boy's well-being! the main severe factor is to grant a loving and based environment for him, particularly is he's no longer getting that help and shape at his mom's abode. you're smart to handle the subject concerns that he's having now so as that it would not exchange right into a much bigger situation later. Be employer approximately his language and behaviour in the direction of your self and others. whilst he's disrespectful he desires punishment and correction in despite way works to your loved ones (I propose the day out device). yet he additionally desires to be rewarded to good and helpful habit. Spending high quality time mutually could be a great reward, particularly for a newborn who has long previous interior the direction of the divorce technique. perhaps you and your boyfriend take him to the park and play the sport he has been loosing activity in and check out to inspire it to advance returned, or get activity in a sparkling activity in view that athletic activities are a great outlet for little ones. As far and the nightmares and mattress wetting pass be there for help and convenience for him after a nightmare and don't make a huge deal of the mattress wetting. you do no longer ought to make him sense insecure approximately it greater desirable than he any newborn already could be. it seems which you're going interior the marvelous direction! good success!

I really don't understand what you said. It was pretty unclear. Obviously you are very upset about this, but please don't take offense to people's comments, they are only trying to help and offer advice. Personally, I would consult a psychologist. Get professional advice on how to approach the child or deal with the problems. If you want the child to live primarily with you, go for custody, if you don't already have it. Good luck.

It depends on who you are to the child. You have to explain how her parents are no longer together. Take out the 'why & drama' part though.

It also depends on how smart the child is. I know a lot of 6 years olds that already understand divorce. If she is one of them who already knows what it is, you can lay it out more flat to her.

Well, when my oldest was 5, we divorced. When we sat him down to tell him Mommy and Daddy weren't going to live together, we told him it wasn't his fault.

At 6, kids just aren't equipped to handle anything heavy about divorce. They still have their innocence, try to dumb it down as far as you can, and leave it at that.

It depends on who you are to the child.....and if the mother wants you to talk about something so important with her child.