Married: What should I do?

I think he needs to find another new job... away from this woman, change the phone numbers, and the two of you should seek some marriage counseling ASAP.

It sound like there is still a good foundation to your relationship, but this may not last long if he keeps himself in the way of temptation. Please, for the sake of your family get some outside help.

You will be in my prayers,

God bless!

He is afraid to be honest with you I think. And you two have been together from a young age. SO you have changed over the years in maturity. And he has probably never been with another person other then you! It is sad I know, especially because you have the 2 children. But you may try and seek marraige counseling. And I would be sure that he understands that he cannot have a relationship with the woman you had mentioned earlier!

Good luck to you and your family!

Have him change his phone number now. If it's "over and done with" he doesn't ever need to contact her and vice versa. If he doesn't change the number, he's still holding out for the possibility that when he's next upset at home, he can run out on you and the kids and get his fix with her again.

That said, numbers are not the only thing that needs changing. Get into counseling now. If he won't go, go by yourself. It will strengthen your marriage. It will help you to understand why you're staying in the marriage, if you choose to. And what you'll do if you decide to leave the cheatin scoundrel.

I'm so sorry for your pain.

You two got together when you were so young, you're probably just changing as you get older and growing apart. You can't make someone change, and his starting to stray is not your fault. But if he's staying out all night, it's only a matter of time until there's sex involved (in fact, I'd be surprised if they're weren't already). He needs to shape up or you need to leave him, period. You cannot allow this to continue, or to allow yourself to be trapped and abused because of your history. It's not good for you or the children.

Married and parents at ages 19 and 21... (did you get pregnant right away?) and now having relationship troubles.

And people wonder why some of us say "Don't get married so young!"

He "just can't let her go"? What kind of lame excuse is that? If he wants to be married to you, he MUST let her go. No ifs, ands, or buts. There is no room in your marriage for her.

If he doesn't understand this, then there's not a lot of hope for your marriage.

It sounds to me like he really likes this person. Sometimes a guy wants to have a female friend to talk to other than his wife. Be happy that they didn't have sex that says a lot about your man, he loves you. I doubt that it was that time of the month. If he wanted to have sex with her he would have. Be supportive of your man. Tell him that you really love him and want to be with him. And by the way what is wrong with having sex every night instead of 2 times a week? You are both very young enjoy a long and happy sex life.

this marriage does not have to be over. there are things you can do even without him making an effort. but you need to decide whether you are able to forgive what your husband has done so far. if the answer is no, then it is time to move on. if yes, then do what you can to bring the love and happiness back to your relationship. families are so important.

good luck

go lay the smackdown on that woman!

This is my life!! Ive been with him for 14 years since i was 16. we have 3 little kids. Hes cheated on me numorous times hes always so sorry because he only loves and wants me he says. Guess what now he has a child with someone else he doesnt see and hes never gonna quit cheating. dont let him lie to you sugar!! ive had the lies for 14 years i filed for divorce today and mine is in jail today also. Ive had my share of pain like you wouldnt believe. Please dont believe his lies. they only get worse im telling you

sorry .....your husband is just not going through a phase....I believe in for better or worse and in this time he wants his cake and eat it too...meaning he still is in like with you but is more interested in this girl...and if he loved you he would not be in this to begin with...love means only your wife...he is not thinking of you when he is with her so stop believing he is sorry...and this won't be the last and you will probably still hang on to the hope it'll end....please be stronger than this...please....just ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with him???? you will never forget this AND...will it happen again??? do you really want to spend your life looking over your shoulder??? having sleepless nights then stay with the fool...you could be missing out on a wonderful guy who you can trust.....my bet is you'll stay in this relationship until he tells you it's over...

Sounds like you have a problem.

He lies, he's deceptive and he's more then alittle attracted to another woman. I don't know what words you will use, but you need to tell him to knock it off...period. You're not going to put up with his bs.

Contact an attorney to see exactly what you can get, so you know exactly where you stand if he insists on playing games with another woman. Don't wait to be dumped on. Know your rights and be mentally prepared in case he decides to play. That way YOU"RE in control.