Any other middle-aged woman out there made the mistake of getting involved with a manic-depressive alcoholic?

you need to help yourself...none of 'us' can help you. First thing is get the idiot out of your home. next thing is change the locks. see a lawyer, get a divorce.

OMG I can relate (somewhat --you'll understand though) -- I do drink too but I don't get drunk (unless I totally intend to get to that point and never drink and drive) BUT I have been married 25 years. My husband is fine. I had a BEST GUY FRIEND (he was almost a part of our family) and I cared about him BIG TIME.......he is bipolar. When we "partied" together he "seemed" fine and happy and stuff but the truth is --- he is bipolar and he was hiding what was really going on inside his head because I wasn't like his wife or girlfriend (just a best female -- friend)....he depended on me for everything --- everytime he had "issues" and then when I HAD ISSUES, he didn't want to discuss them and told me "I can't fix YOUR problems" -- what a friend, huh? Unfortunately, bipolar is a very very serious condition (he would not take meds or get help for this although he totally needed it and he KNEW he was bipolar). He does love to drink and I also think there was more than the bipolar going on....for real. He and I are no longer friends --- it's a long sad story but he's also a sex addict and this (also sick) woman -- sucked him in. My heart goes out to you --- it is hell. I spent so many hours of my life helping him (he had more issues than you can imagine) and crying when he KEPT hurting me over and over and THEN returning to get my help. Been done for quite a while now --- and I'm a bit relieved ----- although I DO miss him....he also made me laugh a lot.

nicely, I style of like the tazer up my a** for some weeks or months (it makes me do wild issues), yet then i lose interest with it and get lower back to the glass airborne dirt and dust in my eyes collectively as attempting to sleep my existence away. i be attentive to there are variations of opinion which I recognize, regardless of each little thing i'm a looney tunes, each so often interesting to my acquaintances, who're all bouncing off the ceiling or being dispersed by utilising their ex-kin. there's no concensus on something, it particularly is all random. For a real holiday there is speedy cycling, yet you basically might desire to look ahead to it to ensue. And to unhappen. I even have my favourite drugs, like clonopin with wine, which keeps me up all nighttime. My sleep cycle is Aussie, my physique u . s .. consistent with probability I ought to pass?

look at what u are doing to yourself by keeping this user around u? get yourself some therapy, get your self worth back. this man is nothing but a parasite and he abuses u on top of everything. your not married to him so there is no reason why u can't easily make him leave. your wasting precious time with this man when u should be living life to the fullest and enjoying life. at your age one never knows what time is left, get him out of your home, get a restraining order, join a self help group, of others who are going through difficult times too, they will help u get through this. it is far better to be alone than live like this. if u are afraid of him there are ways to make someone leave.

You need to get rid of him no matter how much charm he puts on and no matter how guilty he makes you feel. You are in a very destructive relationship and need to be careful! Trust me I am closely related to someone that it has bi-polar and surprisingly enough an alcoholic! Your situation sounds very familiar! But if your significant other is on medication and if he takes them how he should - they definitely don't mix well with the alcohol! Please be very careful and good luck in all you do!

I have some bad news for you. You are what is clinically known as co-dependent. Alcoholics unknowingly seek out co-dependents as someone who will share their burden. where co-dependents unknowingly seek out people who can depend on them for support to fill the feeling of worthlessness. This is a serious illness that you are apparently not aware of and you need professional help. If you truly love this person than I would seriously seek professional help. Try a substance abuse counseling center for advise they will be very familiar with your situation and can offer you advise. I think with proper treatment there is still help for both of you, but you will need professional help. They can educate you on your illnesses so that you understand them better. They then can refer you to treatment support groups such as alanon (for co-dependents) and A.A..

Trust me on this I know what I'm talking about. Just saying tomorrow will be different won't make tomorrow any different.

Maybe worthlessness wasn't a good word to use, but it's something like that. You are know as a people pleaser. A person who puts of someone else's feelings and needs in front of your own.

Please help with what? Throwing his azz out...ok I have 3 cousins that will do that for a price. But it sounds like your not ready to throw him out, you cannot change someone.....repeat after me you cannot change someone...why waste anymore time on this loser? You cannot change a person.

KICK HIM OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dont let it get any worse than it already is. You wont be losing anything. This guy sounds like a real douche. Kick his *** out sister and move on with your life.

Honey we only help those that help themselves.

i may not be a woman but i can help go to you local church and get save and try to read the bible when you can