Recently found out my college friends brother committed suicide a few years ago how should I aproach her?

Call or visit her and tell her that you just found out about her brother, expressing your sympathy, but don't dwell on it too much and change the subject around to her and what she's been up to lately. Be kind and not too intrusive.

Don't act any different with her than you have been. She just needs to be surrounded by friends right now. After a loss, there are a lot of people around, relatives and friends all come to visit and spend time with the family left behind. It is after all the people have moved on and are going on with their everyday lives, that the family feel the lonliness and then the true private grieving takes place. Offering to be there if she needs you either in person or for a midnight conversation is the best thing you can do. She will surely appreciate your friendship through a time like this! Include her when you and your friends make plans, she may not always feel like going, but she will feel loved knowing you want her there. She may withdraw for a bit, but in time your friendship will become even stronger because you made it through one of the most difficult times in life... the loss of a parent! I am sorry for her loss, and sorry that your friend is hurting.

Talk to her normally in the beginning. If it were a few years ago, she might not want to talk about it, IF she feels she's put it behind her - and given how much time has elapsed, as you said. Just offer your condolences, and if she gives hints/the general idea that she wants to talk about it, let her, comfort her and maybe give her some amusing/happy anecdotes if you ever met him/her family, you know. Good luck and I hope everything goes well.

I agree with the other two posters. Send a Christmas card again. If she gets back in touch with you, tell her that you just recently heard about her brother, and if she ever needs someone to talk to, you're there. Or don't wait til Christmas. Send her a letter now, saying how much her friendship means to you and send her condolences about her brother. Then drop the brother subject. Open it up to happier memories. If she wants to talk about it, let her.

Well, that is serious start sending the xmas cards again dont lay it on she could still be scarred jus talk to her and let her know that you will be there for her always=)

Send a sympathy card and pray for her.