How can I get my soon to be ex to talk to me about issues involving the kids?

If your husband refuses all communication with you , even when your children are concerned

I think that he has reached a point where his resentment towards you is stronger that the love he has for his children and the care he should have for them.

Nonetheless he must face , in a way or another , his responsibilities.

As he has cut all dialogue with you, the only alternative i can see is to write everything you want to ask him and submit your questions through your lawyer , with a deadline for him to answer.( As he can , just to hurt you , take days or weeks to answer.)

I think also that you must stress upon his responsibilities as a father which for the moment seems to be of second importance for him.

I wish you good luck.

Oh my goodness, you have to talk about the kids. You need a co-parenting relationship. First, I would ask him if he would be willing to set a boundary, that you will only discuss immediate comcerns with the kids. No chit, chat and nothing else. Tell him you will respect that boundary and you only want to be able to care for the kids in the best way possible. If that doesn't work, I have a suggestion if he won't actually talk to you. Get a journal or pad of paper. Keep it in the kids bags, so that when they go back and forth, you can write down things you need to tell each other concerning the kids. He may be willing to do this, as you aren't talking, and it may lead to actually talking again once he sees that this is all you want. You can write things that are upcoming for the kids, any problems you have had, school work issues, etc.. Maybe give this a try and once the divorce is over, hopefully he will come around. Best of luck!!

This has been an issue for my ex and I for awhile. He will at times communicate with me via e mail and rarely on the phone or in person. It can be very frustrating. I finally just laid it in his lap and told him was tired of fighting with him on every issue. I told him I was done and it was time to put the kids needs first. He has gotten somewhat better. Usually communicates via e mail and never answers my calls. But I have just accepted this short coming of his and work around it for the kids sake. I have realized a lot of it is in my attitude toward him. I treat him as a business associate and that helps. Just stick to the facts and stay away from talking about feelings or opinions or judgments.

It's sad when a relationship gets to that point, even sadder when there are children involved. At this point, it may be best to do the talking in front of a third person, a mediator, a therapist, or a co-parenting or shared parenting facilitator. You need a custodial court order to clearly define parenting roles, and to get that you may need to go through mediation. Because things you say or don't say may come back to haunt you, get all agreements in writing and communicate with a third person present.

sounds like this is a bit of a nasty divorce....

You could always talk to the court and see if you can get an attorney assigned to the kids. That way - their issues will be looked after from a legal perspective...

I mean - if they have an attorney - they'll put it in his lawyer's face. Outside of that - I don't think you can make him (sounds like he's hiding out)

Fine. Tell your attorney whatever it is you need to communicate to him about the kids. Have him/her type up a memo to his attorney. Then bill him for the time.

Simple zoya tell him or his mouthpice that this has nothing to do with you or him.This about his children and you need his help as a father

STOP trying to talk to him, he is clearly an assshole. What is his plans once the divorce is final....who will he have to talk to first before he can talk to you regarding the kids. make all kid decisions on your own until he can get a grip.

call his attorney and see about couseling for you and him as parents..

It is best to stay married for the kids sake. Cancel the divorce, call the press.