Stay or go?

It sounds like your boyfriend of 2 years is a good guy but isn't into the touch/feel emotions that you are. Not everyone is that way but that doesn't make them bad. On the other hand your new friend is more like you are in that department. It is up to you as to which personalty you prefer to be with. Both sound good, but only one will work. Do Not try dating both or you will lose both.

Well, I bet your boyfriend was like that in the beginning too. But now he is comfortable with you. How will this guy be in say 2 years. He might get comfortable with you and change too. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend? Maybe he has no idea how you feel. He can't just read your mind. I have been married for 30 years this year and the reason is communication. A relationship takes effort and communication on both sides. If you can't sit down and talk and work things out then there is no relationship. But, it sounds like you are unhappy and giving up. Follow your heart and you decide what is best to make you happy.

Well, first of all...friends don't date friend's exes - unless its discussed first. It's an unspoken rule amongst people. How would you feel if your friend hit on your now-boyfriend after you broke up???

Second...it's only considerate to break up with your current boyfriend before even thinking about finding another.

And last...I'm not sure I undertand your last paragraph...you felt a "spark"...meaning what?

It reads like you love the new friend - that's not possible.

Think about this situation before doing anything drastic.

Take one step at a time.

Good luck.

The initial spark is always interesting because you received something that you long for...affection. However, always remember that the new thrill is exactly that...a thrill. Men will always put on their game face in the early stages to get what they usually want...but if you find a guy that can enjoy your company and let that thrill build...even for a couple of months before you get close, then you have found a very special guy...

you at least owe it to your boyfriend to break up with him if you want to see this new guy. It could just be a "spark" between you too, but if you feel that your boy is negelecting you than you need to talk to him about it.

Even though you think you really like him, I don't think it's a great idea if you go out with your friend's ex if you are still in touch with your friend. How would that make your friend feel? I would be pretty pissed if something like that happened to me. IMO, unless a lot of time has passed in between, ex boyfriends are off limits.

it is common to feel the chemistry with old flames and new guys, especially when you are not getting any love and attention from your current love....

I would suggest you deccide what you really want and make a move in that direction.

You must not cross the two, you are headed in a bad direction., so stop........ make up your mind where you want to be and how that person treats you and shows their respect for you and your feelings.

then you will know what the answer is.....you are already straying,so that tells me you feel a lack of love and attention, so you are finding it elsewhere....

is this the kind of relationship you want to be trapped in.....

a relationship is about two people, and compromises, not one sided......where someone always gets their way.. it won't work.....

you have to look at both people and be honest with yourself....

Well as with all questions of the heart this is solely up to you??

But ill tell you what i think!! ask yourself, Have you tried everything to restart the spark with your boyfriend or is it hopeless?? why does he not show attention?? is he just there for the sex as you say??. I think you need to sit down with him and ask him these questions to,and ask him if he wants you or if he wants his computer games!! Everyone needs love and everyone deserves to find their true love but maybe oure current boyfriends is that the one!! As with many people who as questions on here which are similiar to yoursI think that you already know the true answer but you are asking for people help for reassurance, follow youre heart if it feels righ then its right !! i wish you good luck

Relationships are hard work. I have been with my husband for 4 years and married for 2 years. If you are truly unhappy you should first try to communicate with your boyfriend about your feelings.

BLAH BLAH BLAH i stopped reading your bad novel and ill answer you stay or go question. GO if you have to post a question about staying or going on yahoo to be judge by strangers than sweet heart i think its time to get out. But get your anniversary gift first but don't get him one why waste your money.

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go with the friend. he seems a lot nicer and you have more fun with him. your current boyfriend seems like a lazy bum. ditch him and go with the friend