should i be upset that my boyfriend says he doesnt trust my judgement?

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i have been growing apart from my best friend in high school, since we've gone to university. even though we are at the same university she has seemed to adopt alot of the airs that alot of meidical students have. i was left trying to keep our friendship alive by inviting along with my friends, or to hang out with her alone, and was constantly snubbed. on the other hand she goes out with her friends and doesn't bother to seek me out. i was initially hurt by this but have grown to accept our drifting apart. though we still talk to one another our friendship is not what it was.

however, i went to meet my boyfriend, who is also a medical student, and my former best friend was there. i felt as though she was cold to me, and there was an air of superiority in her mannerisms. my boyfriend on the other hand says he didnt detect that from her towards me, BUT i thought that she was friendly to him, rather than me. i am sure that her reception was cold, and my boyfriend says that he doesnt trust my judgement on the matter, because i was hurt by her in the past. should he be more supportive, or am i making a mountain out of a mole hill

Princess · Accepted Answer

hmm well honestly guys dont pick up on girl cattiness as well as girls do so he may not have noticed anything at all and she couldve been a total b****... guys dont read into anything really unless they want too.. You should try to think of it as logically as you can and as a third person and then you'll be able to put things into perspective

? · Answer

You can't be independent and still drag your boyfriend around on your back. I have no idea how you could have typed all of that and not be able to see that this relationship isn't working for you anymore. He can't change any more than you can, so why are you still with him? I get it, you love him. But as you are slowly realizing, relationships need more than just love to last. You also need mutual respect, trust, common goals/morals/lifestyle, and acceptance. Your relationship is lacking in all four of those categories. Get a new boyfriend who is just as free-spirited, and independent as you are. Don't settle for a whiny little boy with self-esteem issues. Or better yet, stay single for awhile and go out and do whatever the hell you want (with or without awesome friends).

Nicole D · Answer

for your first question, you should be upset that your boyfriend says he doesn't trust your judgement.  
However maybe he sees something you don't or vice versa.  IF you feel that you and your friend are going apart then you probably are, ooh how that hurts.  especially when you have been friends for sooo long.  However it is a hard part of life and you will grow apart and lose friends.  You will make new ones and lose them too.  In life we grow and change and so will our friends, sometimes our friends change with us and sometimes they don't.  Friendship takes work to keep over a lifetime, it isn't all good times, though we wish it was.  

I think your boyfriend should support you even if he doesn't agree with, and maybe because he and her are in the same course of study he can not see her attitude.  Work on your relationship with your boyfriend and don't worry about your former best friend.

lindsay · Answer

I wouldn't worry abou it too much.  It's possible that you thought she was being more cold then she really intended too because of your feelings about how she has recently changed.  Maybe not.  You are the judge of your own feelings though, so maybe nicely find a way to tell your boyfriend that your judgement is YOURS for a reason and that is just how she made you feel.  If it really bothers you that your friend has changed, why not try talking to her abou tit?

Agent319.007 · Answer

The guy doesn't have a clue what is going on. Your so called best friend has the hots for him. 

If your boyfriend is questioning your outlook in life, ask him if it's any of his business? 

He is either with your or against you. Let him know that.

Anonymous · Answer

YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY BE MAD!


Most relationships are built on 2 things,

1. Love
2. Trust

50% out the window!

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