I'm a widowat33, It's beenthreelong month's.I want to know how long to seek new love?

First so sorry, I'm a widow too at 37 it's been 2 years. His death was sudden. I know what you mean it will always feel like it happened yesterday but yet after 2 months it felt like I hadn't been touched & held forever. I know my hubby and yours understand that you want to feel that touch that only means you were so close. I didn't look for new love and still haven but I have found some comfort with a couple different guys and they knew saddly that I didn't have love for them but I still felt nice to be held. Boy I sure don't know how to be a widow and it really sucks at our age. I have 3 kids and that is the hardest to deal with they will go through so much without there father.

From the part of "I knew this day would come" it sounds as though you were preparing yourself for this so in your heart it has been longer than three months since you began mourning the loss of your husband. You are a strong person to stand by someone you love through this part of their lives and now you must face the world and protect your children which is also very draining at times. You will know in your heart when you are ready and the amount of time is not a stipulation; it is all up to you. It may be best to start off with a friend to lean on first. Good luck and I am so sorry for your loss. Stay strong; your children will need you even more now.

First, I'm sorry for your loss. This is a hard thing to think about, being widowed at 33.

As for "when," it doesn't matter what other people think. All that matters is whether or not you feel you're ready. Don't rush, because you need to heal first. But if you're ready now, don't wait. Maybe you can make someone else happy that much sooner.

No matter how long you wait, some people are going to be judgmental, so it's silly to wait just to please other people. If your husband was sick, or whatever, and you knew that this was going to happen, then you've probably already been grieving much longer than some of your friends or family realize.

That's your business, not theirs. People who are kind and understanding will understand that your husband is still in your heart, and you haven't forgotten him, and he'd want you to be happy. So do I. Good luck.

Hi Sorry for your loss.

I have to say though, if you are lonely its up to you when to start again.

In my group of friends, this person was married Dec 27, on Feb 3 she was killed by a drunk driver & by the next May (so a year & a little later) he was married again to her best friend.

Now they have been happily married for several years & have 2 really cute little girls. So..for him it was opportunity but it could have just as easily not been opportunity!

Seek & ye shall find!

It is not I my business but i think three months could be a little be early to seek for love. But you can start talking to other people and have new friends. You do not need to fall in love right away.

Whenever it stops hurting. 3 months seems incredibly short to me, though, to start looking at other men. I'd give it at least 10 months to a year, out of respect for your husband.

I think you are the only one who knows the answer to that question. If you are ready, then you might want to let your friends know you would like to perhaps go out with someone, even just as friends first.

Best wishes to you.

when you feel ready. so what if sooner is more ready for you than later. you may realize that there will never be anything with the ex. so why waite? life is short.

wait until you are ready. don't rush it, since you are still really young. i'm so sorry for your loss.

whenever you feel you can handle a relationship ,sorry for your loss