What do I tell my boyfriend- Why... No Sex for 6 weeks- 10 points best answer?

Tell him that you went to the doctor and they said that you were at risk of cancer, that they had to do a small surgery and you cant have sex for 6 weeks.

You had surgery, you did go to the doctor, the only part of the story your changing is which surgery you had.

Which the more of a story you keep true the more believable it is

edit - and please stop with the "be honest with him". I understand you have morals, but thats not the question she asked.

The most important thing in any relationship is honesty. If you aren't comfortable enough with him to tell him what kind of surgery you are having and what your surgeon has advised you of, how can you be sleeping with this guy? It shows a clear lack of trust. If you trust him then you should be honest with him and tell him that you cannot have sex with him for six weeks and why you cannot have sex with him for six weeks. If he loves you, he'll understand. What if he were having prostate surgery and couldn't have sex afterwards for six weeks? Would you break up with him or hold it against him in some way? Probably not. So think about how to word this and have an open and honest face-to-face talk with him before too much more time passes.

Good luck.

Alright. Well if I were you, I would hold off on the marriage a bit. This is not the kind of situation you want to have facing you when you become married. Remember, despite what many believe, being married makes things harder, not easier. Struggles in marriage come fast, and thats for people who don't get married with a huge dilemma like the one your facing atm. So with that being said, patience and perseverance will become your new best friend over the next few days/weeks. Can't go back and change the mistake, but it needs to be worked through before getting married. And I agree with the above poster as well. Having sex with this other girl was a huge blunder on his part, and it really does make me question how much he really loves you. But alas, that's for you to figure out. Good luck :)

1. Meet adversity in the relationship head-on and make sure your partner understands your feelings. Letting things linger without explanation siphons away the trust because it puts a damper on the momentum of a sexual relationship. It could also lead to more serious problems.

2. Take the initiative. Let your partner know you aren't in the mood. If you let things heat up then decline sex, you are going to have a bad day.

3. Be extra polite so no feelings are hurt.

4. Communicate your regret at having to refuse, and explain why you need to decline the invitation.

5. Explain to him/her that it's not caused by a downward spiral in the relationship. Politely explain how the human libido is affected every day by stress, work, children, depression, and various other stimuli.

6. Don’t be afraid of how you feel. This is something many people deal with everyday.

7. Compromise when facing this period in your life. By showing that you are willing to bend, your partner will also make adjustments.

If he'll know that something has been done and you lie to him now, he's going to catch you. If you care about this man at all, you'll tell him the truth - just say you're having surgery and can't have sex for six weeks. Don't specify anything else.

Unless this surgery is changing you from a woman into a man, you should be okay.

I always feel honesty is the best policy. If it ever comes up later, he may be slightly upset that you didnt say anything sooner.

Truth be told, its none of his business, but if it was me I would probably say "Hey, listen. I have to have a surgery done thats going to prevent me from being able to have sex for 6 wks. I dont really want to talk about what that is right now, because it makes me uncomfortable. I just wanted to let you know up front because I care about your feelings. Is that something you think you can deal with?"

A man who is understanding (good quality!) will do just that, understand you. Perhaps one day you'll feel confident enough to tell him everything. I wish you the best with that and the surgery!

Question is what is the surgery? Is it cosmetic? Or something to prolong your life?

Based on your question, it is assumed he knows something is going on because you say we have sex again in 6 weeks. So he knows you have to stop for 6 weeks.

I guess if he is not asking, I would be a little concerned that he doesnt really care.

I would come right out and tell him, if he asks. People have surgery all the time, if he doesnt like the outcome, well then, he wasnt worth it to begin with.

I know it’s not what you want to hear. But you need to tell him about the operation. Relationships are built on communication and trust, if you lie about what is happening and he finds out, he will just be angry with you.

Also, sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, just because you cannot have sex for 6 weeks does not mean you cannot enjoy yourself with him, many couples find that being chastised for a few weeks allows them to improve the romance of the relationship, which can in the end, improve things overall.

You feel this guy likes and respects you enough to have sex with him...........yet you do not respect him enough to tell him the truth?

If a boyfriend is told that his sweetheart is having surgery (any kind), and she needs his understanding and patience for a full recovery, then he should be fully supportive of her needs. That is "if" he really has feelings for her that go beyond SEXUAL.

Is this your concern? That he may not have any real genuine emotional feelings for you? Give the guy the chance, he just may surprise you with his reactions. If not in the way you want, maybe it will still be in the way YOU need to make an informed decision about continuing your relationship with this guy.

Good Luck!

This is a tough one..maybe you could tell him you are having a form of birth control done, I know there is something called the Nuva-ring that has to be inserted properly by a doctor and that could be why you can't have sex is to give it time to adjust. Men would never know the difference!