If your only child had to move due to a job change, would you move too, especially if they want you too?

yes. I would do everything for him

I follow a close second behind Iritadragon. I moved about 17 yrs. ago to be in a small town near my daughter. She then moved to Kansas and then Germany. My husband went out for milk and never came home. So I was in a small town with little job opportunities and no family. I've also gone to stay with a child after a divorce just to help with the children. It is not long before everyone has a life except you. WheN I was younger I loved the adventure of just picking up and moving but now I am a homebody. I get the adventure of flying or driving to see the three living out of state and they come to me. Of course if I had just the one child I might be in a diferent mind set.

No, because there are so many factors involved. My home, my work, my friends, other things I am doing. I'm not being selfish, just realistic. What if my child went there for the job change and the job didn't last for whatever reason. Cost of living plays into this, as does other things. The move would

most likely be harder for me than for her.

The child is an adult, and should try to make it on her own.

I'm going to disagree with most of the people here, and say yes. I can't imagine living far away from my only child. I think someone with three kids can't really answer this. I only have one child, and can't ever have anymore. Although I do want him to grow up and become independent, I don't think I could stand living too far away from him and never seeing him or my possible future grandchildren. But my son is only 12 now so we'll see when he's like 30 or something.

in my case, no. Hubby and I have lived in this area, and our only son was born here as well, for 41 years now.

If son moves off, we'll visit him. He can visit us. We can all go on a cruise together or someting. But move from the only roots we've ever had, I don't think so.

Son is a 'homeboy' don't think he'll be moving from the area either, guess I'm lucky that way.

Irregardless of what anybody says or what they want you to do.....the bottom line is what do you really WANT to do in your heart. That's all the really matters for your own peace of mind.

So many factors play into this scenario.....like how old are both [because if the child is young, moving may be in the future, once again];and if the parent is much older, change can be upsetting from what he/she has been accustomed.........also, finances....does the parent still work?...if so, can new employment be obtained?...etc etc etc

If everything was 'in place' so to speak and both would benefit by the move, SURE!...

Nope.

You child has spread their wings and is ready to fly. Let them go and be proud in the knowledge that you've been a good parent.

Now is the time to re-focus on you, set new goals and find happiness without it centering completely around your child as surely it would be if you moved with them.

They want you to move with them as a security blanket but they will adapt to their new surroundings much faster than you will and then you will be lonely.

Plus, if you're using Yahoo Answers, you must be fairly 'new technology' savvy - you can keep in touch daily with e-mails and webcams.

Well now, this would all depend on the facts surrounding your particular situation...

Do you own your own home, and could you get a decent price for it, selling it now?

Do you yourself still work, and would it be hard for you to find employment in the new area?

Does your child spend a lot of his/her time with you to begin with? For example, do you live together, as you have only each other in this world? Or do you only see him/her once in awhile because they like to have their own lives?

Would you be leaving behind friends and family that you would miss terribly after awhile?

You have to take ALL of your circumstances into account when you are making decisions for yourself. But that is the MOST IMPORTANT consideration for you....you have to decide on these things for YOURSELF and decide how they would affect and disrupt YOUR life. You can not live your life for another. No matter how close we are to a child, eventually we have to allow them and ENCOURAGE them to soar on their own.

MY reaction would be a no to this. But that is only what is good for ME. You need to decide what is good for YOU.

Nope, you have friends where you are and she will make new friends at the new job and you will be sitting there going, gee where is my child. Stay and let your child grow up and on. Just my opinion, have 3 grown children--and they are all fine without me in their lap.

No, you must allow your child to develop into a grown up without you, my daughter was in Germany over the summer months, I missed her so much, but I have to allow her to grow up.

Nope, I watched my Mum do this with my oldest brother. Where he moved she followed because he wanted her to look after his kids while he and his wife worked. Mum raised those kids of his!!!

Now she has Alzheimer's and is in a nursing home he doesn't come anywhere near her.

I am really angry with him because of that. Mum changed her life at his whim and now he cant be bothered with her.

I raised my kids my self and now I look after mum as well.

So NO its my life now and I will live it my way.