A question for all pregnant women!?

I have been there. When I was pregnant with our son, my husband felt the same way after 4-5 months of pregnancy.

Its not you, its just the whole aspect of them knowing there is a baby in there. My hubby said he knew it wouldn't hurt the baby or anything, but it just turned him off knowing the baby was right there, and felt weird about it.

We FINALLY ended up having sex when I was 34 weeks, and it ended up putting me into pre-term labour, and hinestly, at that point, it was really uncomfortable awkward sex anyways.

Try and do other things for intamacy. Massage, or even cuddling naked, kissing, or just snuggling. Tell you man you are feeling unattractiv,e and you need some closeness, even if its not making love.

Good luck, and don't worry, only 11 weeks to go!

It is 50% of men who loves having sex with their pregnant partner all the way through and the other 50% think it is 'weird'....We enjoyed a healthy sexlife till about the same time as you are now, then it got a bit funny..he had started talking to the belly, feeling the kicks and we had created a personality for the baby so he was worried the baby would know or feel anything so i think we had sex a few times after that but it was more from pure desperation than anything else, ha ha

I understand you feel unloved and unattractive but the chance that is why he doesn't want to have sex is minimal..what you need to remember is that it doesn actualkly have an effect on the men too so what you need to do now is talk about it, tell him how you feel..there's always other ways of satisfaction ;)

Goodluck and hope you sort it out :)

Your not alone on this one!! Im 27 weeks pregnant and my other half really doesnt want to go near me and he`s been like this since we first found out i was pregnant. Ive gone through every feeling of being insecure, wondering how long he`ll be like this, feeling totally unattractive, crying about it etc etc but in all honesty if I think rationally about it if i was in his position I wouldnt want to have sex with me either. We`ve spoken about it and i know he loves me and the baby and if he had sex with me and (god forbid) anything bad did happen to the baby he would blame himself. Just try and make sure you and your partner dont lose any closeness(cuddles etc), as much as sex is a huge part in a relationship its not everything.

Yes my BF has been excatly the same from word go he didn't think it was right...but we have continued to have sex. I am 27 weeks now and we are not as active as we were, but we do other things, oral, massage\etc and then we end up finishing off with a little sex from behind which is the most comfortable position. He just can't help himself at that point. I think he has surprsied hiself as he really didn't think it was 'right' to have sex when pregnant. He is african and his culture are very different to the way pregnant women are treated.

Oh, that's one of my fears. I am only 17wks but have a small bump and caught Dh rubbing my tummy during sex last night, it was weird. I am worried that he might feel the same way when he can feel the baby.

Have you tried to get cuddle time out of him instead? Maybe some romantic time that doesn't need to involve sex but might get him interested? Maybe he would be more comfortable with that and it would fill some of your needs.

I can't give you any personal experience since I am not there yet but I hope you get what you are looking for.

I would be well happy! Off the hook or what! Don't feel unattractive he is just worried that he will harm you or the baby, I feel the same I would be too scared to have sex. It is very normal for men to feel like this, try not to feel like it is because of you. Good luck with your pregnancy and birth, I am sure things will be back to normal after the little one is born :)

A lot of men react like this as they think they are going to hurt the baby. Just reassure him that there is absolutely no way (no matter how big he is) that he could come anywhere near the baby. Explain to him how you are feeling and remind him that you are a woman AND a mother.

i would suggest you take your boyfriend to your next doctors appointment and let the doctor tell him that it is ok .sex is just as good when you are pregnant as it is when you are not. and isnt he feeling needy if he is scared of hurting the baby show him some stuff about it online if you cant get him to the doctor. you will both feel better for it .good luck honey

I think all of us have. Mine was the other way around though - I'm never in the mood and my husband is ALWAYS in the mood...

It's hard to feel sexy when we can't fit into the cute clothes we once could, constantly seeing our weight increase on the scale, aches and pains, etc.

You're not alone!

my girlfriend is 37 weeks gone and we have been having sex for the whole pregnancy.it will not damage the baby in anyway,quite the opposite it stimulates the baby..if he doesn`t want to have full sex you can always try other forms...try just sitting down and talking to him...explain ur feelings