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I'm turning twenty-three, and I'm still single. What should I do?

It's not like I'm ugly or anything. I've had people who've liked me in the past, but I just didn't like them then. The people I fall for give me the impression that they see my love either as a joke or they can only ever see me as a close friend, and it sucks sometimes. I'm not too picky, anyone with a genuine interest in me and who isn't needy is okay, regardless of looks or intellectual capacity. I've dated, but it's just not me. I flirt for fun, but just that. I keep my emotions to myself, mostly. And I don't understand why the people I fall for keep giving me the impression that I'm not good enough for them, when they are good enough for me. I guess what I really want to ask is: how can I find someone who will make me feel safe and accepted for who I am?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    just be patient and keep looking. there is at least one person in this world who will love you the way you want to be loved. it just doesn't usually happen when we expect/want it to...

  • 1 decade ago

    Live your life and stop putting your age and relationship status on a time line. It sounds like you are overanalyzing the situation - lots and lots of people are still single in their twenties. The best way to meet someone is to pursue activities that interest you - take a class, volunteer, go to religious services, join a gym, whatever. Your future significant other isn't going to break down your introspective doors unless you give him/her an opportunity to do so.

    And it's possible that people aren't giving the impression you're not good enough for them, but that you're struggling with your own insecurities and misreading their behaviors. Talk to a trusted friend or a counselor about the way you approach relationships and what signals you might be sending. Insecurity can sometimes come off as aloofness, which is off-putting to the people who might otherwise be interested in you.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're not the exception. Many people feel that way whether they've had 10 boyfriends or 2. Only advice I can give is to change the type of guy you are hanging around. Try a new club or join a new group where you can meet different people and make yourself more interesting. Instead of trying to find someone, try to experience more things.

  • 1 decade ago

    O my gosh...23... the world is ending! For goodness sakes, you are young. You have plenty of time to meet the perfect person for you.

    If you're set on meeting someone and not having luck in real life, try online dating.

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  • 1 decade ago

    People you fall for give you an impression? Why dont you just suck it up and ask them out? You may be misinterpereting their reactions.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Are ya' sure about the 'ugly' thing?

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