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Is it OK to date my ex's friend, and how long should I wait to do this?

I have become good friends with my ex-girlfriend's friend and we would like to date eachother. I was with my ex for 3 years and never cheated on her, and we had a good relationship, but things just were not working. The breakup was a lot harder for her, and I think I had already in my mind gotten over it before it actually happened. This friend and I get along great, have a lot in common, want the same things in life, and are very attracted to eachother. I don't want to let this great woman out of my life, but I don't how my ex will deal with us dating. Please help!

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  • Jon G
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    go for it! you broke up cause that relationship was broken. this new relationship is strong. dont let a past relationship affect a new one.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    First you say you and your ex had a good relationship. Then, "but things just were not working." Which is it? Is it that her "friend" moved in on the relationship? She, of course, has a roadmap to your heart; since your ex has told her exactly what you like, want and desire. Your ex trusted and confided in your "great woman," or didn't you know that? Better be careful, my friend. You might slip and fall into a serious trap.

    Oops, I forgot to answer your question. Your ex will be devestated to learn that you're dating her dear friend. Better decide if Miss Right is worth the pain she'll cause. Since she doesn't care, you probably should.

  • zmj
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    When my friend started dating my ex, it was kept secret for a while because she was concerned about what my reaction would be. Of course that only made it worse in the end.

    The friend you want to date, needs to talk with your ex first. This is the sort of thing that could destroy their friendship if you don't approach it carefully. If your ex is not okay with this, then this girl needs to decide what is more important, dating you or maintaining her friendship.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your ex's friend may have to decide what is more important to her. Her friendship or a possible relationship with you. If she took it badly, then she will never be keen on the idea of her friend's dating you. Ever.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Better to discuss this with your ex in a non-confrontational way. What does the girl think? What you do depends on how your ex relationship and the girls feelings matter to you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would wait a couple of weeks, but don't try keeping it secret from your ex cuz shell find out then she'll be even madder. Talk to the girl and see what she thinks... goodluck♥

  • nyjae
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You should not date her. rather she should not date you. I say if you like her keep it on the low and if you guys still like each other then after six months you can come out of teh shadows. PROCEED WITH CAUTION. The girl should know that you are off limits if they are truly friends.

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