How do I go about initiating sex.?

look i know what you mean, and i soooooooo understand where your coming from.

i started reading erotic novels in this web page "cafemom.com" they have some of the wildest fantasies, and when i read them i cant keep off my hubby!!!!!! its like the animal comes out in me and all i want to do is have hot, sweaty,savage sex! he he he i truly recommend it, it helps your imagination go wild.

try this, in a week he'll be the one complaining to leave him alone, or who knows wanting to buy you more erotic novels.

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please the b/j dosent always work(it tends to get boring, im not saying they dont like) it , its best when you are motivated mentally , oh and about the toys, try using them on you first get him stimulated and then slowly caress him with them.

I don't know if it is just the way you wrote this, but something seems wrong. He gets mad when you don't initiate? It sounds like he's a bit of a baby. You both work hard. Does he have a freaking scorecard??

Ask him what his fantasies are about you initiating. Does he get turned on by you calling him into the bedroom naked? Or by you calling him in with a sexy outfit? Talking dirty to him between bathing kids?

Tell him what you need to feel you are getting the attention you need to get into the mood. Does that mean him doing the dishes while you read to the kids? Does that mean telling you to take a bath and prepare a suprise for him while he puts the kids to bed? Does that mean putting the kids in front of the tv for 1/2 hour while you share what happened in your day? Flowers once in a while? You gotta tell him. Men, though I love them, are generally dense about this type of thing.

I like it when my wife initiates things too. It reassures me that she wants and needs sex as much as I and I know that she is into me as much as i am into her.

Have you asked him about how he might like you to initiate?

Here are a few simple suggestions:

1) throw yourself at him- that turns me on. it makes me feel irresistibly attractive.

2)dress in a way that you know turns him on ( some of us like classy some like trashy some like a bit of both) and begin to touch yourself in front of him, cooing, moaning, and begging him to take you.

3)if you can have the kids out of the house when he comes home, surprise him at the door wearing something sexy or nothing. don't let him get past the living room before you ravish him.

4)try some role playing. most men have fantasies about women in certain outfits-cheerleader, catholic schoolgirl, nurse, maid are some of the mlost popular. you could dress up as a dominatrix and surprise him when he walks into the bedroom, be rough, use a riding crop, a paddle or some such thing on him. demand that he please you.

5) let him find you lying on the bed naked, legs spread, hips gyrating - that should send him the message

6) you could just start a make out session with him and let or make things go where you both want them to go.

best wishes!

well sounds like you work very hard if you got 3 kids at home and keep every thing in the house in order then have sex 3 to 5 times a week...you need a vacation alone i think,,,,,lol.......i don't know if you could be taking the kids over to stay all night at someone elses house would be a good start..or if you have a friend that could just watch them say for a couple of hours...then you could make you some kind of plan to do something really special...well if you would like to toss around some ideas send me an email....

If you are going to initiate it, you might as well be really aggressive. Just walk over to him, turn to him, or whatever and unzip his pants and do whatever. Jumping in the shower with him is also fun. If you are feeling really confident, just walk into whatever room he's in wearing some sexy lingerie. Have fun with it. It's sex, it is supposed to be fun too.

You aren't the ONLY one that gives of herself every single day and has kids to care for. Try doing what you do and hold down a FULL TIME JOB AS WELL!!!

Welcome to womanhood!

Now satisfy your man!

When the kids are in bed, go take a bath, slip on some nice lingerie, and go up to him..."ready for a good time?" It's not hard to initiate.

Sleeping naked should work.

Or ask for a back rub and take your blouse and bra off.

If all else fails take matters into your own hands, if you get the drift.

Go down on him to start always works for me, or start by using one of your toys and ask him to help

Sleep with no underwear on. It works everytime and sometimes just touch him...