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Should I be focusing on getting married @ 19?

My mom tells me she's anxious to get a boyfriend and settle. I turn 20 next month and she's pressuring me stop hanging with girls and get with someone. I'm a Junior in college and I'm applying to law school next year so I'm focused on that but at my university its 70% girls!! Aside from the fact that there just aren't a lot of guys around that I'm interested in, I'm trying to focus on getting into law school.

My mom got married when she was 20 and has been to my dad ever since. She always talks about how it was the best thing she ever did and how she didn't get a lot of support from her girl friends. That's great and its really inspiring to have parents who've been married for over 25 years but I'm not my mother. A marriage at 20 or 21 would not work for me. Not that I don't want to get married because I do, but at least after I finish law school. I could go on and on about how different we are and how we had completely different childhoods but you get the idea.

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  • GD-Fan
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    NONONONONONO

    Wait until AFTER law school- Times have changed

    I am 26 and got married last year- My marriage would have failed if I was younger. Being married is ALOT of work

    Ask you mom if she would rather see you married or happy

    Do what you want...do not fall into pressure from family to get married..that's one of the biggest decisions you'll EVER make!!

    Just because mom go married at 20 doesn't mean everyone has to

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My mom was married at 19 and when I was attending college her and I would butt heads constantly. Unfortunatly for the both of us, neither of us could understand where the other was coming from.

    I am 25 now and out of college and my mom and I still have a hard time understanding the lifestyles each of us chose but she respects the fact that I am comfortable living my own lilfe. You are too young to worry about getting married especaially if you are attempting law school. Continue to concentrate on your studies and love will find you eventually.

  • 1 decade ago

    Mom may love you dearly, but she is completely off base, or she is trying to save the cost of tuition. One or the other.

    Your law degree will help you depend on yourself, that will make you a far better wife someday, because you won't have to rely on anyone else for support. While it is wonderful that your mother was lucky in love, and you probably would be as well, that's not the point is it? Get your degree. If you do not, you will end up resenting your mother for talking you out of it.

    No one should ever marry to please a parent. You marry to please yourself and the person you are marrying. Period. Mom has issues. You need to discuss this. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    ignore you mom (but in a polite way) not everyone is the same. law school is hard enough without trowing a relationship into the act. when the right guy comes along youll know. but you dont need to go out looking for one. love comes in mysterious ways so let love find you and you will find it you will have a better relationship.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I tell my kids to wait till 28yrs old. By then they have got there parting done,schooling done,then a career started. At that age they will be ready to settle down and will be still young enough to have kids. I got married to young.

  • 1 decade ago

    Absolutely do not get married so early! Wait until your out of school for that kind of devotion. Enjoy being young and dating, and of course school.

  • 1 decade ago

    You sound really intelligent and mature. Keep focusing on academics. You will NEVER regret it

  • 1 decade ago

    wait until you are ready don't rush. you are so young. it will happen when the time is right

  • 1 decade ago

    you just take it at your oun speed when you are ready then you are ready

  • 1 decade ago

    your an adult you can do whatever you want to do!!

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