I have a partner (female) who is lovely. The only fault that I can find is that she drinks a lot.?

First, do not even consider the cultish AA. Physician, heal thyself is best served here. She is an adult who is in control and is doing exactly what she wants to do in response to her hidden problems/pain. Addressing the drinking problem is merely sidestepping the real issues of whatever it is that is causing her pain. Those are what must be discussed and handled. If not by you, by someone else whom she would feel more comfortable talking about it. In the meantime, try to minimize the public drinking. Threaten to leave or have her go. That might wake her up to the fact that you are at your wits end with her problems and that she needs to do something to help herself.

Yes, even psycho-therapists are not immune to the human frailties of life!

Find your local chapter of Al-Anon, which is a support organization for people whose lives are affected by alcoholics. Bottom line? Tough love and intervention is indicated here. She will permanently ruin her health if she continues the way you say she is going now.

You might have to let her go you know. Hurtful, but you have to "take care of yourself". I was a co-dependent person and was also what they call an ENABLER. It is a catch-word which describes the sick relationship between the alcoholic and the person that loves them.

Go ahead and join an Al-Anon group, educate yourself.

Good luck.

if u really care for her then enrol her in alcholics anonoimus.oop i thin i got the spelling wrong but u know what i mean., she might not go alone so first few classes u might have to geve her company., thats what i would do.