I told my husband that sex doesn't even feel good and that we all just pretend it does for them.?

Not the smartest thing to say to your poor Husband!! You certainly don't speak for the rest of us happily married, sexually satisfied women!

Well, no doubt it made him feel pretty bad... Of course, not all women feel the way that you do about this, and therefore what you said was a bit of an untruth. However, I do understand a bit of what you are saying because my husband and I were talking the other night about porno movies, and I explained how the actresses in the movies are ACTING and most (if any) women are not into the act as much as they pretend to be. Low and behold, a special came on about Porn Stars and there were interviews with the women and HANDS DOWN they all agreed that they don't like the type of sex that they do on screen in real life, and that they are acting because it is a job. So, if this is what you were trying to say to your husband, that women are not "porn stars" and don't normally act like the nymphomaniacs that we see in most adult movies, then you are right. Still, there are those women who do enjoy sex a great deal, so you can't say that it doesn't feel good to every woman.

Wow!!!! You ruined him. Good job if that was what you were after. A man feels useless if he can't do at least that right. Way to castrate him. My new husband had two wives like you and damn you guys are good at ruining a good thing. I have been helping him get his confidence back from women like you. It is not easy and it takes alot on my part. Thanks to women like you men have to look else where just to feel like men. By the way who ever told you it was THEIR job to satisfy you, guess what sweetie you should read a book or something, you are in charge of your own pleasure. If you don't know what you need how the hell is he suppose to. Oh were you missing the day they taught communication. I feel sorry for your husband. I'm sure the next woman in his life will love him and care how he feels and maybe sexually satisfy him. I can't imagine you are ANY fun, what a drag for him.Don't speak for the rest of us, some of us are trying to get it when ever we can. Good luck and please do something to fix the mess you created.

What a terrible thing to say to your husband. You need help from a doctor because there are many things that YOU are missing. You made your husband feel as though this was HIS problem, when it is yours. Go to a gynecologist to find out what is wrong with you, it may be just a simple problem that can be changed for your own benefit. You are missing one of the most rewarding parts of your life by not finding out what is wrong with YOU.

Speak for yourself woman. Not all of us are in the pretend mode. I happen to enjoy sex VERY MUCH with my hubby! If it were up to me we'd be at it everyday (but sometimes he's tired)! Your husband must not be doing something right for you to feel this way. You just shot his self esteem down in your relationship. Wouldn't surprise me if we has an affair on your happy butt!

I do not pretend that sex feels good.

You obviously haven't been doing it right & are missing out on one of life largest pleasure.

Read a book about how to climax. I feel really bad for you.

& if you need to tell your husband anything, you should be focusing on how to make it better, not making him feel horrible. Wow, are you really married???

LOL Speak for yourself

And U probably made him feel worthless

Good luck with that one

Why would you want to hurt him like that? How would you feel if he said the same to you...Or something like "the only way i can feel good when i have sex with you is if i picture someone else!"

I once said the same thing to my husband, what you need to do is sit down and tell him what you would like for him to do and what would he like for you to do. And you need to learn how to move alone with him, try new things like lotions, oils, toys what ever it takes. Because when sex feels like a chore then that's when you treat it like one and it should not be that way.

I pretend a lot. At least 4 out of 5 times. Especially when I am tired or just not in the mood. BUT...............I would never tell him that.

He will quickly find out that you have a negative and distorted view on sex. Many women do enjoy sex quite a bit. It feels very good for them. If you fake it, then shame on you for deceiving him. All this time he spent with you lying to him about something feeling good, he could have been with someone else who actually enjoyed it and appreciated it without having to be a phoney. It's women like you who drive men to cheat.