do girls still bother with guy friends when they're married?

Friends what the heck is that...I got married and now have NO friends, when I go out I hang out w/ my sisters cuz them too are married and have NO friends so all we got is each other... When were out I'll run into guy friends from school and shoot the sh*t for like 10 mins but its not on a regular basis. The only guy friends I have right now that I hang out w/ are my hubby's friends!

As in friends that are male? Why shouldn't women be friends with men? My best friend is male - we've grown up together since childhood, and both our significant others are quite comfortable with the fact that we're more like siblings.

If you can't trust her to just be friends with other men, then you shouldn't be with her - it is you who has the problem, not her.

My first boyfriend started out like this - proud and protective - this soon developed into overbearing jealousy, and a posessiveness which was nigh on suffocating. He became paranoid that I was sleeping with other men behind his back (when I would do no such thing), and threatened suicide on me. Relationships like that are very lonely when you're forbidden from seeing certain friends. You are currently standing at the top of a very slippery slope, and it is her I feel sorry for.

Grow up, learn that marriage is about trusting each other, get to know her male friends better, and give her a bit of breathing space. Seriously, your insecurity is probably there because you haven't made an effort to get to know her friends, regardless of their gender.

Has it occurred to you that the men she's known for probably longer than you, may also have wives and girlfriends? Would you consider it a problem to maybe throw a dinner party so that you can get lots of her friends and your friends together? That way you can all stay in touch with each other, without the discomfort of things being one-on-one.

i'll be blunt - your attitude stinks, and the way you're going, your marriage will not last. and it will be those male friends who will be scraping her off the floor, so she'd do well to keep them on side.

"is this a fad that dies off?...I hope so because I don't want my wife associating with other guys at all"

That's an extremely selfish and insecure point of view.

I have guy friends, my other half has lady friends. Some of these people we've known longer than we've known each other.

If you're happy as a couple and you trust each other, what is there to worry about?

Everyone has to have someone other than their S.O. to help keep them in perspective and let off steam with.

First of all, I suggest that you learn to accept your wife associating with other guys from time to time. A good marriage has a solid foundation of trust, and you have a bad attitude already.

I had many guy friends when I was in school, and I still see them. My husband still sees his female friends as well. We just go together. This was, everyone is happy--we see our friends, meet new ones, and get along well.

The key is trusting each other, and keeping your spouse first at all times. This is not hard!

I don't think that a woman should necessarily lose all of her guy friends once she gets married, However for me, I do not have any guy friends anymore (by choice) simply because they always cause trouble and seem to always want more and think they are falling in love with you , drama, drama, drama, but that is just what happens with me, i am sure it is different for every female so you just have to talk to the one you are going to marry, i can say this though, you have to let her make the "friend" decision on her own, you can Never tell her who she can have as friends.

Yes it's ok.

As long as they keep within appropriate boundaries that are necessary to a healthy marriage. Flirting or excessive attention to the friend would not be appropriate. She should not put it up in your face so as to cause you to feel threatened by her behavior toward him. But a low profile is ok. Not putting the friend above her husband. No late night partying alone with him or things like that.

TRUST....should be the most important factor in your relationship with your significant other. Would you stop having friends that are only friends that are women if they were in your life before your wife? Just as long as things don't get out of hand you should not be worried right now. Just trust her please or things between you two will turn for the worse.

Yes. Most do. Although the association is of necessity not as close as it was before marriage.

This is something you had better learn to deal with in an adult manner, I'm afraid. It will be a major bone of contention in any relationship you chose to foster, otherwise.

Peace.

I'm not a woman, but been married for 15 yrs. so I have some insight on couples.

I think it depends on what you think “guy” friends are… if she flirts with them, I would say if should stop when you get married. But so should you and your “girl” friends. But if you are going to tell her she can’t have friends, you are going to have a lot of problems in your marriage. And you shouldn’t be getting married, because you have trust issues.

My wife still talks to guy she knew in high school, but they don’t go out and hang out unless I go. And same goes with me, I don’t go out without my wife. It’s not so we can make sure we don’t cheat on each other, it’s because we like being with each other. I like being with her, that’s why I married her.

I take it you are planning on locking your wife up in your basement? That would work! <rolling eyes>

There are guys everywhere. Your wife will have to interact with them in order to live a normal life. Try to make it thru a whole day (without changing your routine) without talking to any female but yours. This sounds like a trust issue. If you can't trust her enough to be OK with there being males in her life than you do not need to marry her!!!