Girls,can you fall in love over the internet?

The only time I ever fell in love, it was over the internet. It turned out horrible, because we never really "committed", but yet we both kinda expected it. Then he told me he couldn't really talk to me anymore because he got a girlfriend where he lives. Kinda broke my heart, but yeah, you can totally fall in love over the internet. I think even more easily, but its just because you have such a larger pool to choose from, so you can get the exact type of person you're looking for.

There is a trust factor to be considered. The fact that you're asking this question suggests to me that the trust is not there- so whether or not she is truly in love with you might be immaterial at this point.

My experience (personal and through observation) has been that, before committing to a serious, long-term relationship, couples need to interact on a more personal level than is possible electronically. In other words, some real face time is crucial - more than a week's vacation - on the turf you would be sharing. (I'm sure I will hear from someone that I am wrong. I'll concede the point in advance that you are the exception.)

She may well love you - or not. You don't say how you feel (except possibly between the lines). Is love enough? If either of you is thinking of moving across the continent, there is a lot more at stake than just being in love. More to the point, can you endure each others' peculiarities for the long term? Do his feet stink? Does she leave her underwear on the floor? Are we compatible, or at least accepting, in matters of religion? Do we agree on financial issues, division of housework, the children...

Ah, yes! The kids. I am taking it for granted that you have discussed the child(ren) and the impact your relationship will have on them - and they on your relationship.

That being said... Yes. I do think you can fall in love over the Internet. Can you can develop a solid, long-term, committed relationship? I would give that a definite maybe.

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Girls,can you fall in love over the internet?

Hi everyone,I met this girl over the internet.We have exchanged pictures and done web-cams. She says," I am the one for her she dreams about me etc." She is a struggleing single mother I am doing pretty well. Do you think she can fall in love over the internet or just likes that I can...

Yes you can, you can actually marry the person too. I met my husband over the Internet ( AOL ) and married him, 9 yrs later we're divorcing. But it is possible.

The reason's behind the divorce has nothing to do with the net though, hes in the military and we just were not together enough to keep it alive. He lived in VA and I lived in NV, I moved out to VA to be with him. Don't get me wrong there will always be a love for him.

Don't give up hope and always work through it, if you love this person and she loves you back, it will always work out :)

Possible, yes.

However let me share some thoughts about it. I dated one guy for a year and a half. But the first whole year of our relationship, we hadn't even met in person yet. But I felt such a strong connection with him that I truly thought I was in love.

He moved to my town. You know, once we were together in person...it just changed. He wasn't a bad guy or anything, but people are different in person for sure. You HAVE to spend time with the one you're with IN PERSON to know if it's truly love.

If you really see this going somewhere, consider flying out to visit her for a week or two and then see what you think. Your feelings might change once you're with her in person. And I would be very cautious, since you stated she's struggling. It is definately possible that she wants to use you for money.

I do wish you the best of luck. Keep an open mind, and spend some time with her in person, and see what happens!

HELLO its only been 4 months and shes telling you all this already....wow. I think you should see this as a red flag. I think you can fall in love over the internet, but you have to at least met and known the person for a lot longer then 4 months. I can def. say its hard to tell if shes for real. I know I had a friend get scammed from a chick. She had a 1 yr old lil boy and gave him the sob story...he only talked to her for 7 mo on the internet and he said he was going to move to her state and live with her. He found out when he arrived at the airport to meet her that she wasnt there...and then found out from one other friend of hers that she was married and didnt have a 1yr old lil boy. so you have to be careful.

Well i think people fall in love fast sometimes and sometimes it takes time, either if it is online or not. Well I did have a online relationship counting the time we started chatting it's like 2 years and the relationship is like a year. And it is like a bit far than your relationship because I live from different country. Long distance is hard to do, it takes alot of understanding and patience, well for me it's up for toyou if you wantto move to the second stage, atleast you are the one who is thinking about it, mine may take years for it getting to teh next step! Good luck, you cabntry it out,it's like every otherrelationship and if you dont want to continue you can do as well. God bless to you both!

I hate to say it, but yes, it can happen. I've been dating my boyfriend for over three years and I fell in love with him over the internet. I liked him very very much since they very beginning, and after about 9 or 10mos of talking, I told him that I loved him. He didn't believe me of course, but eventually we met and like I said, we're still going strong :) I'm planning on moving in with him hopefully near the summer time and we'd like to get married one day.

However, I didn't have kids, and he wasn't rich.

Just don't put all your eggs in the basket yet. If she loves you, she'll stick around and take her time. You don't have to tell her that you love her yet. My boyfriend didnt tell me until almost a year later but since I truely loved him, I was ok with that and was willing to work towards it :)

eta: Long distance relationships CAN work. The two people just have to be trust each other and be very open and honest. It takes a lot of work, and sometimes it's a terrible struggle, but if you love the person, then you know you'd do it. Just because you can't have sex doesn't mean you can't make it. My relationship has been long distance from the very beginning. Over 700 miles apart!

People can definately fall in love with the idea of someone, but to truly be in love, I think you have to actually love each other when you are in close physical proximity (like seeing each other on a routine basis). So no, I don't think she would really know one way or the other until she has spent significant amounts of time with you, including in situations that are less than cheery (e.g., when you're both really tired and a car breaks down and you're lost and hungry and she has to pee). If she still says she loves you THEN, then I'd take it seriously.

no because your falling in love with a description and a person you have never met.... My ex MARRIED a woman over the internet and they lasted one year, she turned out to be a total freak, and mean as heck, and she had two kids already.

Don't let yourself be so desperate as to fall in love with a computer who has no real feeling for you because your so untouchable, it is just believed that people who do fall in love over the internet feel the relationship is "safe" because there are no real life situations, your basically in love with an interactive journal.