My husband talks to his ex?

I don't blame you that does seem very suspicious.

If he wants to get his moms jewelry back that's great have his mom get it.

As for this chick calling you don't complete disregard her. I am not saying don't believe your man but.....

Are you paying his way through the academy?

When someone has got something to hide that's what they do they hide.

Dear Lizzybit64,

Doesn't sound like he's very trustworthy / respectful to you as he doesn't want to limit talking with her (24 hours a month?). What in the world does he need to talk to her about (his ex)? The only way I would even find that he should be entitled to speak with her is if there were kids involved. I wouldn't believe a word his ex wife tells you and she has no business calling you. A word to the wise, if you don't trust what he is telling you then your instincts are probably correct and you're in denial. Best of luck to you!

Okay, talking to an ex is sometimes innocent. But calls at 2 am? What is THAT important at 2 am? Exactly. And the biggest red flag is not talking to her in front of you.

And he does not look like he is going to stop, I even felt sick reading this because i've been in a very similar situation. And he DID go back to her. Trust me, get out that relationship, you may love him, but his interest appears to be someone else..

Good luck :)

I think it is time for an ultimatum......three way call, he tells her he loves you, that he can't talk to her anymore because he has moved on, get his mothers things back in divorce court......or be gone..this is the only way. Been there and done that, the only thing that broke that connection was the threat and very real threat of my walking....be serious about it. I know how this hurts and I also know he is hurting now, however put a stop to it and he will feel better and so will you. good luck.

F*ck that. He is playing you. Then he tells her that he's leaving you. Don't believe the bullsh*t story he gave you about wanting his mothers jewelry back. Think about it now. If he tells her that he's leaving you, and he wants to be with her then why would he ask for the jewelry back? He's obviously trying to play you, and then you will be left with a dick up your a*s. Leave him now before you get hurt any further. i don't normally talk like this, but this pisses me off. Why can't he just be honest with you for crying out loud. Take his phone, and throw it in the toilet. Son of a b*tch.

OK Baby, you better get ready, b/c MR wonderful is thinking of going back with that loser of ex. I know the pattern, long phonecalls, phone is cut off when home got to get to work early or some other BS.

I don't care what this turt got up his sleeve, but you!!!! you need to be 2 steps ahead of the game. See if he can do all this one time he will always do this. One time cheat always cheat. Put your foot up his a.... he propably already seen her and sexed her. You got to face reality talk to him either he stops right now or he is out!!!! (Easier said than done) but he needs to be with his loser ex!!!!

You deserve so much better, heck you go and join the police force you can do it.

Sending my love.

It doesn't sound good,you need to get her on the phone when your husband is home. Don't tell him what your going to do,dial her number and when she picks up hand the phone to your husband and say to him here this is for you,when he says hello to her, tell him to tell her the truth that he does not love her and isn't getting back with her and he loves you and to stop calling him at work. If he doesn't do that for you then you have your answer, he really does intend to leave you for her. That story about his mothers jewelry is just plan bull s h i t it's just an excuse he used to cover up his lies. I'm sorry but if he doesn't talk to her in front of you when you hand him the phone then that means one thing he is still in love with her and doesn't want to hurt her. I know it hurts like hell to hear something like that. I think this whole situation is alot worse then you think it is,remember your husband is trying to get away with something and he isn't ready for you to know the truth yet. That's why it's so important for you to catch him off guard. Nobody likes to play games but sometimes we must in order to keep what is ours. Isn't she playing games, you just need to be better at it then she is. You have the upper hand here,your husband is still with you so do everything you can to keep him.

I would hit the roof if this was my husband and especially if he was telling her that he was going back to her. He told you just to get his mom's jewels back? Are you truly going to believe that bulls**t? If he wanted the jewels back, he would have asked for them without telling her that he was getting back together with her. I think there is something truly going on between these 2, doesn't matter if she lives in another state. I think that you are very much fooling yourself in thinking that way. And I would have never told him that he could talk to her only when you are around, that is just giving him a chance to talk to her. That is telling him that you are okay with it. There is no reason why a married man needs to be talking to an ex..if there was a child born into this relationship, that would be a much different story. I have to talk to my ex because he is the father of my 5 year old but if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't have anything to do with him. He is telling you not to worry..okay you need to worry. I had an ex boyfriend who did this to me, told me she wasn't his type, that they just smoked up together, drank together at the bar, he would drive her home and get another man to drive me home, he told me not to worry, he talked to her a lot, on the phone and since he worked in a bar, she was around all the time. I even talked to this b***h, I knew who she was, and I trusted him. Now we weren't married but I do take my relationships very, very seriously. And he ended up cheating on me with her, he left me for her. But we were only together for 5 months but I am still paying for what that a**hole did to me. I owe quite a bit of money on a phone bill and the carpets in the old house had to be replaced because of his dog. I lost a lot of stuff due to this dog.

I think that you need to ask some hard questions, this is your marriage and this is your husband. Are you going to sit quietly on the side lines while your husband has some kind of affair or leaves you for her? Are you going to continue to let him talk to her and tell her that he is going back to her? You need to stop this and you need to stop this now. This has gotten way out of hand and you have every right to not like him talking to this other woman. You have every right for it to make you uncomfortable...I would be the same way. If he doesn't stop then you need to start making some ultimatums...they were together once, they aren't together anymore. It should only take one conversation to really find out what this man is truly about and what he is doing. He believes that he is doing nothing wrong, but he is a married man and his ex should be kept in the past. That is where she belongs, not in your marriage.

On the outside...Not good...How is your relationship? If he's the kind of guy you can sit down, put your needs on the table and being taken seriously I would tell him that this "behind the scenes" communication with his ex is unacceptable and unless he has children with her she has no business being allowed into his and your lives. If he argues the point then some serious decisions need to be made..some counseling at first hopefully to find out what could be causing this to continue....

Stop being a door mat and leave this man. He's lying to you. Why the hell would he be talking to her at 2 in the morning about effing jewelry? Give me a break!