Why are White guys afraid to approach Black girls often? Please read!!?

Maybe he's afraid he'll never go back.

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I read it all of it, it reminded me of me in high school. There was a black girl in our high school that was 99.99% white, I had a huge crush on her. She was a cheerleader, I was tall, white & goofy (still am). She was a senior, I was a freshman. Now I'll never know, I can honestly say that I didn't care what people thought about being inter-racial, I was intimadated by her being a senior. I am in love with a black woman now, I'm country as hell and she's city but it's our differances that make it work. Tell your tall, goofy white friend, if he doesn't talk to her now, he's gonna wonder what might have been till the day he dies, even if she does shoot him down, at least he knows. And this is one white guy who has never been afraid of approaching a black woman.

I read it all - and I think that he's scared what the people around him will say. He's afraid that his friends, parents will reject him for liking her. She's afriad that he will not accept her because she's black. It seems weird to her because that is the way her mentality is, a white guy falling for a black girl? What would her family members and friends feel, think? Awkward....

*But skin color shouldnt matter. Ive fallen for a white guy at my college who was raised in a predominant white neighborhood and went to HS school where he had like only 1 black friend throughout. I've fallen for him not because he's white but because of his personality. For you see, true love is colorblind. Even though we're afriad of what others will think, we can't stop loving that person.

I wish both luck. Tell your friend not to be afraid. To tell her! She must have thought about him - even liked him but felt afraid because she felt he wouldnt like back! Let not his world crumble before it is even built! Tell him to tell her! Tell her and see what happens!

*ALL OF LUCK - ;)

Interesting question! I grew up in the suburbs and went to predominantly white schools. Every once in a while, I'd catch a white boy acting very strangely around me, and later I'd find out from a friend or whatever that he liked me. I rarely got asked out as well. I think it's because there's no question about men being attracted to black women... that's obvious that it happens... but men are more hesitant to date a black woman because all of the stigmas attached to it. People will stare, people will assume things... People will judge. The thin-skinned take the path of least resistance.

Okay, well I am assuming that your story is real (ppl are gonna say its fake....but I chose to personally answer your question) She may be interested, but it depends on if he can play his cards right. He has to be friends with her first, so she/he can appreciate their similarities/differences enough to possibly; START DATING!

NOT all white guys are all that intimidated; Idiots (guys in general) dont ever show fear or intimidation...But he might just be shy because she is 'something new' to him and he doesnt quite know how to go about the situation.

But if she is just not interested into interracial dating; you need to let him know as best as you can...Also respect her decision.

Let me know how this goes...

well I don't know exactly how to answer it, but I think it has nothing really to do with skin color.As I was told before a 'black' woman is representation of strong and independent woman.maybe 'white' guys don't like that in a women.

Some white men are just uncertain if black women would be open to dating a white guy. I was at the club yesterday with a friend and I was spotting a white guy I liked and we caught eachother's eyes A LOT, but he didnt approach me.... I would have asked him to dance, but I kind of prefer my men to take the first leap. However, there were two white guys who approached me and chatted in a confident manner..... I wasnt interested in any of them though.

I agree with badkitty's last paragraph.

I think that it's because of the stereotype that all black women are loud, outspoken, demanding, and VERY independent. That's an attitude that will scare away the average male no matter what race he happens to be. That's the main reason.

Another reason could be that it simply isn't cool to find black women attractive in some cultures. My husband (white) recalled a time when he was in high school and him and his friends started talking about how hot Tyra Banks was but then one of the boys said "But she's black" as if it was impossible for a black woman to be considered "hot". This mindset isn't as uncommon as one might think unfortunately.

The final reason I will give you is simply the misconception that white men are afraid of rejection. They think that black women are not attracted to them so to avoid rejection they tell themselves that they are not attracted to us. I can't count the number of times a white guy has asked me "Do you like white guys?" as if it was impossible for me to date anyone besides black men. I'm glad my husband didn't ask me that. Lol. That's annoying.

Anyway, I wish your friends the best of luck. I have a few tips for him:

1) First and foremost, tell him to treat her like a PERSON and not a "black girl."

2) Tell him not to pretend to know everything about black people (music, culture, etc.) because that's just annoying.

3) Tell him to be himself.

Things should work out for everyone in the end.

The white dude's afraid of what his "friends" will think, same with the black girl.

Some white guys think that black girls don't consider them to be cool enough, so they don't even try.