How many of you would adopt if your spouse wanted to?

I come from a divorced family, in which my parents had me and my little brother. Both of my parents got remarried, my mother didn't have any more children. My dad's wife wanted children, they tried, but she couldn't conceive. She had my brother and I who were not biologically hers and also chose to adopt becuase she wanted a child to raise by her means. They went through a private adoption agency and got my sister the first day she was born! It has been one of the most influential pieces of my life and I wouldn't trade her for the world!!! She is my sister and that's it!!! If your other child is old enough they will understand why you adopted, if they aren't, they will eventually. Jealousy happens with all new siblings whether they are adopted or biological, so expect it. Either way a child is a blessing, and you can find a good organization that can help you with the process. Good luck in your decision, things will turn out just fine!!!

I personally would opt for the biological child, because there is a connection there that doesn't exist in an adoptive relationship. Why does the wife want to adopt? Did she have a difficult pregnancy and childbirth experience the first time? If the husband wants another one of their own, I suspect that indicates that he might not feel the same way about an adopted child as he does his own, which might create problems down the road. However, it is the wife who is going to do the gestation and birthing, so if she is unwilling to do this again, I say it is her call. Perhaps the appropriate compromise is for them to compromise and be content with the child they already have. I am female.

Female - Is there a reason why if you are healthy you don't want to have another child of you own? Why not do both?

The only advice I have heard about adopting children when you already have some of your own, is not to adopt a child that is older than your own oldest. Your oldest does have a certain "place" in the family and that should not be taken away. Lord knows there are many, many children out there who need good, loving homes.

I am a 27 year old wife of 8 years and mother of two boys that are my own. I would adopt! But, I had a hysterectomy and can't have children anymore. If it would have been before my hysterectomy then I would have weighed them before making a decision. With your own child you know what to expect, it will be you and your spouse all rolled into one. With adopting you get two totally different people all rolled into one. This is a tricky situation and if I have to answer honestly I would say I would adopt! This would be helping a child that is already alive and needing a home and family to love them!

Well, what are the reasons for her wanting to adopt? Is it her age, health, not wanting to be pregnant again? Or, perhaps she would like to adopt one of the many unwanted children in this world because you two could provide a stable and loving home? What are her reasons? They matter.

Personally, I would have another child of my own before adopting if it were physically possible. However, if there were no way for me to have another child of my own, I wouldn't be against adoption at all. I am a female...you can tell by my avatar! ;)

I am a 13 yr old girl (plz dont judge me on my age!)

i think you should sit down and talk about it, there is no point in agreeing to something if you dont want too, and you will regret it.

The husband doesnt have to go through all the pain envolved in child birth, so therefore cant really understand.

I think that if you can have children, you should unless there is a good reason not to. They both must have a reason for there opinion so i think you should find out what they are and see which is more valid.

P.S. What does LGBT stand for?

i would sit down and talk about each others points of veiws why we think we shoud adopt or have another one on our own. if you can't come to a decsion then you must not have or adopt one just because for the fact one may not want it that way and will hold a grudge, talk about it and then come to an conclusion, if you guys can't agree on one a childs life is precious and u wouldn't want the child to be in the middle it it if some does holds a grudge , esspecilly if you hold the grudge agenst the child cause that not wha you wanted.

Since I was 13, I've always wanted to adopt a baby girl from Vietnam and now that I am older and starting a family, that is just what I intend to do :)

My husband likes the idea too.

I would adopt..I have three children of my own, and I was diagnosed not long ago with multiple sclerosis. I can still have more children, but after my last it really took a toll on my body. I would love to have another baby, and I would love to adopt one.

Male. I am not opposed to adopting however if you both are not in agreement over this it may cause problems between you later on. After all kids are a joint responsibility.