Girls, what would you do?

right well I'm confused......how can he treat you like dirt and not care about you then tell you he loves you and means it? Whatever, he sounds like an prick, I wouldn't have anyone treating me like dirt and so I'd leave him. If he loved you so much then why would he treat you this way. You deserve better, don't get sucked in by the 'I love yous' and the gifts.

Sounds like he is confused about the true meaning of love. 90% of what you say is negative and that should be a big clue. Don't get me wrong, jewelry is always nice, but I'd rather get it from someone who treated ME like a priceless jewel and believe me he IS out there for you. But that kind of guy won't find you if your in this abusive relationship when he arrives. Kick this guy to the curb AND FAST. I've been there and done that...he even had the nerve to tell me that I would never have another date because I was such an aweful person using some of the same words your boyfriend used. You don't love a person like that, you love the person you wish he was or could be given the proper psychological counciling. I think you are talking about yourself and if not then pass this on to the person you know is going through this deliema.

Well first of all you do not deserve to be called those names.If he really loves you then he would show respect. They say when you love someone its hard to let go but girl u need to move on and just be by yourself then when u least expected the right man will come along and treat u right. I'm not saying to take my advice but love yourself because those words he call u will only lead to low self esteem and you deserve so much better. Even though he never cheated or felt this way before he need to learn that a good girl like u will be hard to replace and learn how to respect u. If u need anymore advice keep posting question and i will be glad to response.

Let me explain something to u because obviously u don't have a clue. It does not matter what a man say to u because they r just words but when he put those words into action that is when u can believe him. How can he love u when his way of respecting u is calling u a female dog? I don't care how mad u may make him respect is still due and just because he tells u he is not cheating on you doesn't mean he is not! And far as the jewelry all that is material! I want u to ask urself this question is jewelry worth ur self-respect as a woman?U have to luv enough urself enough to know that verbal abuse is never good! That is how physical abuse starts with verbal and emotional! I want u to really look into the mirror and realize that u deserve better for urself! Good Luck!

First, you need to talk to him then. Tell him that if he doesn't change then you are leaving. Personally, I think you should leave anyway because I doubt it will get any better. I have walked in your shoes before. You are in an emotionally abusive relationship. He walks all over you and treats you like **** and then is nice for a little while and then he starts his **** up all over again. Give yourself a little more credit and respect. You deserve a hell of lot better than that. As long as you keep putting up with it then things will never change because he knows he can treat you however he wants and you will still stay with him. You have some tough decisions to make sweetie. Good luck.

He is abusing you even though he is giving you all of these nice things and he says he cares about you it is not true he just wants you to be there I know this I was in this situation and i need to get rid my man I now you love him but he is not good for you and he is going to keep on hurting you and that is not good for you so leave him and do it fast.

hunn i realize that u love him, but ur feelings are more important if he makes u feel like sh*t and calls u a b*tch and h*e, u need to let him kno that u wont have it anymore. No guy should EVER treat u like that. the reason hes giving u jewelry and stuff is so that u willl stay with him, its a bribe. dont accept it from him anymore. u need to let him kno that if he continues to treat u like that, u will leave him for good. leave him for a while, stay with a friend or relative for a while, and let him kno that u are DAMN SERIOUS about this. u need to be the bigger person and tell him to stop acting like a child. leave him if u have to. love yourself more that u love him.

:) good luck!

Leave him-- his a liar when he says he loves you. No one really loves someone they walk all over. He's using you, controlling you and you're letting him! I bet if you try to leave him he'll cry like a baby or beat the crap out of you, then tell how sorry he is and how much he loves you--it's all controlling techniques. He's not a boyfriend he's a boy fiend.

Basically, you two care for each other, but you are making each other miserable.

It sounds like you two have an unhealthy reliance on each other. If you really want to stay with him, you both need really good counselling (probably both together and individually).

If both of you are not willing to honestly and sincerely go through with this, you should leave before things get really bad.

The thing is, nothing and no one is worth your self respect. By him calling you derogatory names, he is seriously disrespecting you. To allow that to happen, just because he loves you, or buys you things, or because you love him, is saying that you don't love or respect yourself. You don't deserve to be called names. There are a million other guys out there who will treat you like gold, love you, buy you nice things, and who you can fall in love with too. Life is too short to waste it with someone who truly doesn't respect you.