Why does relationship advice suck?

Yea, I agree that some of the stuff you hear in mainstream media is too generalized and too out there to be good advice, but some people dig it. They can't write a book just for you. They write it towards a target market. I personally have never read one of those books, but I'd imagine you have to find a book that fits you.

Also, not to be mean, but you have to look at some of these people. Like Dr.Phil, how many relationships has he been in? He doesn't look like the type of person that has had many.

In my opinion, when it comes to people advice on anything... Street smarts beats book smarts. Most of these "experts" are book smarts with PhD's in Psychology.

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Its becuase they all suck. Why take dating advice from someone you dont know and they might suck at dating and relationships. Its like asking a guy how to pick up women and he only gets to meet women online.

Try to find someone who has an awesome relationship and see what they do right.

Also remember every relationship is different and no advice is right for everything.

Also remember if one book or person had all of the knowledge then you wouldnt need help from others which mean a lot less books would be sold. Its a circle. Why give all the information in one book when you can sell 5.

I know what you mean, but I disagree that they don't know what they are talking about because lots of people actually put a whole lot of time and effort into studying these things and some even teach from experience. What I find most helpful, more times than not, is simple articles I find on the internet. You know, when you go onto yahoo, aol, msn, or whatever, and their homepage has featured articles..I click on them & I learn something valuable, and even if I heard some of it before, it still pays to hear it in a different way, because then it's a different understanding.

To me, therapists aren't always what they're cracked up to be either. I know a guy who was in therapy for so many years, and I found out after I started dating him, it was THE WORST relationship lol, so idk how much that therapist was helping him.

You basically have to adjust whatever advice people give on relationships to your relationship because no two people are alike, but the advice does give a guideline. Here's some of my relationship advice:

-compromise is a 2-way street. never deprive yourself of what you need & deserve. don't settle for someone who doesn't respect you & the fact that you have needs. Also, on the flip side, always respect others & their needs.

-have BALANCE. Keep the communication going ALWAYS, but make sure that you still always have time for work, school, family, your other friends, and your personal needs-such as your hobbies & your responsibilities

The problem is that you're trying this stuff out on fellow human beings, and there is only one human being out there that you can be 100% reliant on, and that's you. You don't even know fully what's going on in your partner's head - only what they've deemed OK to share with you.

Sure, some of the advice you get seems archaic and worn out - like "Communication is the most important part of a relationship" but that one is true - the sad part is that most people have no idea what that is. The people who don't know how to communicate come to Yahoo Answers asking their questions instead of going to their partner.

"Why won't my wife have sex when I want?" "What can I do to make my boyfriend be more romantic?" "How can we stop fighting all the time?" These are questions best addressed together as a couple. You may have to revisit these topics over and over and over, because you are probably with a person who doesn't know how to communicate either, which means being able to say the scary things that they think you may not want to hear, or asking the questions that they might not want to know the answers to.

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Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.

Well, different things work for different people. You don't need a guru to tell you how to live your life and how your relationships go.. I give advice because I have had plenty of personal experiences and am willing to help others.

Live the way you want and go through relationships with your own advice rather then the "experts" advice.

Those books are supposed to be for woman or guys who are very insecure and can't take decisions by themselves, victims of verbal or phisical abusive, it doesn't matter if you do or not what a book says, things will be fine when you become and discover yourself which is something you seem to still be in process, also you will become comfortable with who you are, they like it or not, by then someone will meet and will be the real you, and not someone who acts according to what a book says which is the point in the road where you are now.

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i agree with you! i think the reason relationship advice suck is because its on matters of the heart, and no matter what people advise us on in the end we do what feels right for us...and most of the time when we do what feels right instead of use our brain we end up in a sticky mess, which we would like adivise on but know we oursleves are the only ones that can get us out of the mess because its our fault we fell into it anyway....sheesh sounds like i should address my issues as well! lol