Is she too young for me?

Yes she is too young for you but if you're only interested in having her for a few years, go ahead and waste both hers and your time; you'll both be that much older and have nothing to show for it when it ends.

You said she is looking for a male role model??? Are you sure she doesn't see you as just a father figure or big brother??

Also, at 19-I was same as her....and then 21 hit and the ability to drink (legally) and I had just gotten out of a serious relationship..That was when I went through my party stage. She may have not hit her "party stage" yet. Gotta keep that in mind.

In most situations, age doesn't matter. It is more about whether both people are at the SAME point in life. EX: Finished with school, career started, seeing the same things in the future at similar times, don't want to spend every other night at the bar...etc. In this case, even though she is very mature, it doesn't necessarily mean she is ready for the relationship, especially with someone who has went through so much more than her. (not saying your old, just saying that 14 years is a lot of experience compared to her)

I think it is wise that if you do continue this relationship, keep it on a friendship level until she is at least 21 or done with school. She still has SOOOOO much more growing up to do and you might not like who she turns into a couple/few years from now. I know when I look back at the person I was when I was 19 and the person I am at 23, I see two completely different people. My views have changed and dang near everything else has changed as well. Priorities are different now. I am an actual adult, living on my own and paying my own way.

Yes, she is too young for you. If you find yourself being "on her level", then you need to get therapy to find out in what ways you are emotionally immature. You aren't going to find a 19 year old who is fully matured - sorry.

1. Her brain has not finished developing yet - not until age 25. This affects her decision making abilities, her personality, etc. Basically, you won't even know if she is the right person for another 6 years - do you want to wait?

2. Despite being responsible and independent, your young friend does not have the life experience that accompanies maturity. She may be doing a great job of being responsible and independent, but next month she could be bawling like a baby and let down the front she has put on for you.

3. Being educated doesn't make one mature. Being indepedent doesn't make one mature. There is a lot more to maturity than that. You are setting yourself up for being seriously hurt. Her life and points of view will change so much over the next 5 - 10 years - you surely will be dumped when she realizes that what she really needs is someone closer to her age or someone who more closely meets her priorities in a mate.

That age gap is a little too far spread I am afraid. She is barely out of high school, and no matter how mature she "seems" she is not going to be on the same level as you are in life, because she simply hasn't had the time to experience things as you have. That age of girl that ends up with an older man is usually looking for a "caregiver" or "mentor" or "father figure", but definitely not a "lover" or a "husband" I think you need to look no further than your way of life and interests to see the difference in your ages. You will be the one that ends up hurt in that relationship. I would move on to someone more suited for you and let her live the life that a 19 year old should be living.

Well she is legal and all, but there is definately going to be a gap in maturity.

I'm 24 and i remember how I was at 19. Just having fun and no plans of settling down or being serious.

I would be friends for a few years, because young women go through a lot of changes mentally. You develop as a person during those years. She probably won't be the same girl you met at age 25. If it's meant to be, then it will be.

I guess the question is more...why would you want to date a 19 year old? She might be mature for 19, but she has not experienced the world to the degree you have. I mean she is 1 year out of high school. I just think that there is probably a lot of attraction right now, but after a while it will become clear that the two of you don't have much in common.

If you are just wanting to be a friend then go for it and be a friend but want if she talks about marriage ????

Then probably she is. You've heard the saying "age is just a number" so there is really no correct age to get married at if it goes that far.

If I was you, I'd wait till she is between 21 to 24 then see if this question pops up in her mind again.

Friends frist is the golden rule!! I think alot of men your age seem to want girls younger! Seems us woman your age are just left out in the cold!! LOL!! Key word in your question is role model!! Not a husband!!

In my opinion and this just for me I would say yes she is too young for you. In my personal experience, I am 27 and usually date within a 3 year difference from me, currently 24-30. I do go out side that range on occasion but it has never worked out for me. Well again this is just my opinion, but I wish you the best of luck with your relationship.

If you are concerned about the age difference, you probably are right. I am sure it is flattering to have someone so young to be interested in you, and she probably feels flattered by your attention to her, but you need to be cautious. Keep things platonic for a couple more years, if things are going to work out romantically, it will withstand the wait.

i dated a 19 year old guy wen i was 34... it didnt work out. we did have a lot in common an we got along great but over time it jus felt like a was raising another child... my boyfreind now is 11 years younger than me an its a wonderful relationship.. im not sayin it wont happen but jus take it slow so no one gets hurt.. good luck