Amber

I have had cats in the past and they have always instinctively known to use the scratching post provided, but the cat I have now doesn't seem to acknowledge it at all. She is not a kitten. She is a 2 year old rescue cat that I adopted. I have given her 2 posts. One is made of rope, and the other carpet. She still continues to use my couch, and my rug. When she does that, I even take her over to the post and put her paws on it. Any suggestions on how I can get her to use the posts? My couch, my rug, and I thank you so much. lol

Our real estate agent has been helping us find a home since late September. We have finally found one, and are about to close the deal. At Christmas I picked up a bottle for him as a holiday gesture, but I am wondering if I should get him something at the close of this deal. If so, can you give me some ideas of what I should get. I realize he gets a percentage of the sale, but he has done a lot of work for us, and I didn't know the protocol in this situation. Thanks for any suggestions.

My daughter (who is 25) got a ring from her Grandma for Christmas. When she opened it she said she loved it, and in the end said it was one of her best presents. (and the ring fit) Anyhow the next day she was really looking at the ring, and actually doesn't like it. She said it seems too old style for her, and she isn't really into birthstones anymore. She was just caught up in the moment, and didn't really take a good look at it.

She lives with her Grandma, so its not like she can just wear the ring once in awhile when she sees her. She doesn't want to hurt her Grandma's feelings, but she also doesn't want her to waste her money, and she doesn't want to have to wear this ring everyday either.

What is a good excuse to return the ring, but have it seemed like it was a sad thing because she really does like it. Her Grandmother (my Mom) is very sensitive, so it has to be a really good reason.

We would appreciate any suggestions and help with this.

I have a wedding to attend in a few weeks. My fiance who is coming with me is asking my advice on what he is to wear, but I am not good at style for a man.

Now I don't know if it makes a difference, but my dress is tan, with bits of white and black. I know he is going to wear black dress pants, but I was wondering on a good color of shirt/tie. He is Italian, so his skin tone is great with most colors.

Thanks so much for your help : ))

You all had such great ideas when I came to you for kitchen basket suggestions for the bridal shower I am going to attend, that someone else now needs your help. My friend (who is attending the same shower) is making a "romantic bathroom" couple's basket. So far she has some nice plush towels, bottle of wine, wine glasses, aroma therapy candle, massage oil, bath salts, and some body lotion.

I personally can't think of anything else, but I thought I would throw it out to you people again, since you were so creative the first time.

Thanks so much : ))

I am making up a kitchen basket for a bridal shower I will be going to. I want to fill it with kitchen accessories, knick knacks, etc. Just wanting some ideas on what would be useful and fun to put in the basket. Thanks in advance.

I am going to be attending a "pot luck" bridal shower. Any ideas on some easy, but yummy dishes to bring would greatly be appreciated : ))

When attending a wedding, is it ok to wear a flower in your hair? I'm not sure if the wedding party will be doing that, so I don't know if that is ok to do. I haven't been to a wedding for years, so I am sure so much has changed. Thanks for any input.

I bought a vintage, aztec chess set/backgammon set. It's a beautiful set, but there is one pawn missing, and I can't find anyone who sells it. Can anyone give me a website that I might be able to track one down? Thanks in advance for any help.

My fiance and I of 4 years were driving home last night when a sentence came out of his mouth that has caused me to pack up my things to day and leave. He was married before and was divorced 10 years ago. I have always suspected he missed his ex (even though she is re-married). He even lives right down the street from her. Anytime I brought this up he said I was a crazy woman. They have 2 kids together, and his kids are his life, and I knew if given the chance to have his "family" back I think he would, even if he didn't really love her.

Anyhow, on the way home a radio station was playing solid Christmas music. So I said wow it's so early for that. People who are depressed at this time of year could really spiral if they are starting this so early. I said I get depressed at this time of the year, and he interrupted me and said yes I used to get really down, but it isn't "as bad" now. So I said well I was going to say my reasoning is money. I think it is very stressful because of that. So I asked him what his reasoning is, because I knew it wasn't a money issue. Well he got really defensive and said oh my god, why do you have to pry? Just forget it. I said no, no, I want you to be honest. He still wouldn't answer, so I said is it that you are saying you miss your ex and kids, and the family time together??? He didn't answer. So I said I am going to say it one more time, to give you the chance to correct it if I am totally wrong. Well he didn't correct it, he just said.......I said it wasn't as bad.

Well I lost it at that point. I said wow what have I been for these past 4 years?? You are still missing that after 10 years? I could have handled it if you said it used to be hard, but now that I have you I am happy again, but that is not what you said.

Anyhow I was very upset. We have been engaged for 3 years, and I have tried to get him to move, he kept delaying, I tried to get him to set a date for the wedding, he wouldn't. etc etc

So today I am packing up my things, and he is not trying to stop me, he just says I am nuts and don't understand him. Can anyone tell me if I over reacted, or if you think he is stuck in neutral and not willing to move forward with me, because my suspicions are correct??

By the way this really hurts because I love this man and thought we were going to be together forever. Just please give me your opinions. Thanks in advance.

I have a bunch of watches that I am going to be taking to a flea market to sell , and I would like some fun ways to display them. Either using items I may already have at home, or ways I could make a display rack for them. Any creative ideas would be appreciated. Thanks in advance. : ))

Any ideas on a unique, original costume idea? I want something that is pretty, but original. So not the typical cat-woman, or cleopatra, fairy etc. I know it's early, but I want to have time to prepare. Thanks in advance for your help. : ))

I want to host a baby shower for my best friend. This will be their first baby, and I want to make it special, but I have never hosted one before. Any ideas that you could give would really be appreciated. Thanks so much. : ))

I am tired of buying expensive conditioners that don't work that well. Does anyone know of a hair conditioner I can make up at home. It would be much less expensive and probably better for my hair too. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

My daughter-in- law is going to give birth in a couple of weeks. She had a baby shower about a month ago, but my question is when she gives birth do I buy her a gift or the baby??? It's been so long since anyone I know has had a baby I am not sure what the traditional thing to do is. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks so much

What is the best thing for morning puffiness on the eye area? When I wake up I always have on my eyelids and undereye area. It takes about an hour or so to go away. Is there anything I could apply to the eye area to help this and make them look fresher? Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

I can't handle the insecurity and jealousy I am feeling in my relationship. My bf shows me more love and attention than anyone has ever in the past, yet I feel the most insecure with him than I have ever felt with anyone else. We were out last weekend and he ran into an old friend of his (that was a woman), they talked for a few minutes about general stuff. He did introduce me to her, but after it was done I was left feeling immediately insecure and found myself asking all sorts of questions. I hate being like this, I just want to be happy and just accept his love for what it is because he has never done anything to betray me. Any advice would be helpful, thank-you

I have been dating an Italian man who was born and raised in Italy. He follows the Italian culture and is very "old school", he doesn't like anything with real technoligy. He is the most wonderful, caring man I have ever met and I want to get him something he will really treasure for Christmas, something related to his country. Can u please help me with some ideas for a gift he would love. Thanks in advance for your help. :-)

I have been seeing this guy for 3 weeks now. Everything was perfect. Great chemistry, affection, tons in common, we laugh alot and then all of a sudden he gets scared. He tells me the last woman everything was perfect with, up and left him for no reason. He says he wants to take it slower and maybe he is not good enough for me etc. I told him no problem, I would take it at his speed, that I cared for him very much and would rather take it slow than lose him. My question is now how do I act and what is the best things to do to ease his fear and have him want to make that commitment. Serious answers only please, I have never dealt with this situation before. Thanks in advance for your help.